Fact: Nobody Really Cares Whether You Were Breastfed or Formula Fed

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As an adult, chances are you’ve never thought about whether you were breastfed or formula fed. Honestly, I couldn’t tell you if I was breastfed. I have no clue if my partner was either. My sister? Nope. My friends? Not a chance. And let’s not even get started on historical figures—did Albert Einstein have a preference?

When I take my two-year-old to the pediatrician for her pesky ear infections, no one has ever asked whether she was exclusively breastfed (which she was for almost a year, by the way). It simply doesn’t come up in conversation except for those early days when I was trying to figure out breastfeeding and nurses were all about those feeding logs.

Once you get past that initial stage of feeding your little one, unless you’re some kind of passionate advocate, you probably won’t talk about it much again. But you wouldn’t know that if you spend time on the internet. There seems to be this never-ending “feeding war” narrative out there as if it’s the only thing on our minds. Spoiler alert: It’s not.

There’s no denying the importance of support for mothers who want to breastfeed. Lactation consultants deserve to be as accessible as formula samples, giving women options. But please, don’t beat yourself up over your feeding choices. After that first year (or however long you choose to breastfeed), you’ll move on to the next parenting hurdle—trust me.

The bottom line? Don’t buy into the hype. What truly matters is that your child is well-fed and that you’re content with your decisions, be it breastmilk or formula. Sure, people will argue about the supposed benefits of one over the other, but let them.

Articles like “If You Don’t Breastfeed I’m Judging You” just add fuel to the fire. One quote I found particularly outrageous was: “You’re a mammal. You’re built to lactate. When it fails, that’s sad.” I mean, come on! That’s just ridiculous. Here’s a pro-tip for dealing with mom-shaming nonsense: No one cares about your baby more than you. So, don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about how you choose to feed your child. Whether it’s “I can’t pump at work” or “I just don’t want to”—both are valid reasons.

Believe it or not, the question “Were you breastfed?” is not one you’ll encounter in adulthood. It won’t be on college applications, your employer won’t ask, and there aren’t any medals handed out for breastfeeding.

So, if you ever feel guilty about this part of parenthood, just remember: no one gives a hoot whether you were breastfed or formula fed. And if they do, well, they might need to rethink their priorities.

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In summary, don’t stress over whether you were breastfed or formula fed. Focus on what truly matters—your child’s well-being and your happiness.