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The Real Support New Moms Crave
It’s been just two months, but I’m already in the groove of rocking a plush glider a bit too energetically, holding a cranky baby, and riding another wave of anxiety.
Entering motherhood is like a thrilling roller coaster fueled by fresh hormones, unfamiliar fears, and crushing self-doubt. I can’t seem to remember anything—like where I put my keys. I’m juggling a lot of new gear: baby, diaper bag, wipes, pacifier, and a hefty dose of postpartum anxiety.
I pull out my new smartphone to text my partner, who’s outside grilling with friends. “She won’t sleep,” I type with one thumb. “I’m at my wits’ end. She’s too fussy to stay awake, and she won’t eat. I’m exhausted, and I don’t know how to handle her screams in front of company.”
His reply: “Who is this?”
In the chaos of new parenthood, I forgot to update my contacts, so I accidentally messaged a stranger. I can’t even recall my husband’s number!
“Oops, I meant to text my husband!” I send a follow-up. Just as I’m about to type the correct message, my phone dings again.
“Wow, you must be really tired. New baby?”
“Yeah, she’s 8 weeks old tomorrow!”
Three dots appear on the screen, and then: “Just so you know, it gets easier. I have three kids, and right now, I’m enjoying a quiet evening while they read on the porch. It really does get better. Hang in there.”
Her kind words bring tears to my eyes.
Thinking back on that unexpected support, I still feel a wave of gratitude. She didn’t have to reply, but her response was exactly what my anxious heart needed to hear.
New parenthood is exhausting; you’re beyond tired (I’m sure you already know this). You’re so drained that your body feels like it’s rebelling. I remember a time when I was so fatigued I accidentally poured a bottle of freshly pumped milk down the drain. There were moments of sheer exhaustion when I struggled to lift my baby off the bed—only to realize I was just clutching at the sheets while she peacefully slept in her bassinet.
That kind of fatigue made me dread nights alone when my partner traveled. With crippling postpartum anxiety, I felt utterly unprepared to care for an infant solo.
When you’re new to parenting, it’s hard to let unhelpful comments slide. These days, if someone offers unsolicited advice or makes a snarky remark about my parenting, I can smile and respond confidently. But as a new mom, that confidence is often absent. I found myself obsessing over comments like, “If you stay calm, your baby will too,” or “Just wait until she starts moving; it’ll get tougher!” The unsolicited advice starts the moment your baby bump starts showing, and it can be overwhelming.
That’s why I cherish the kind response from that wrong-number stranger. She didn’t diminish my struggles by offering clichés like “sleep when the baby sleeps” or “don’t blink; it’ll fly by.” Instead, she offered a lifeline with a simple truth: it gets easier.
To all the new parents out there, whether you’re juggling infants or navigating sleepless nights, feel free to reach out to me at any time. I get it—he won’t sleep, she despises the car seat, and babies can be incredibly challenging. You might feel lost and utterly exhausted, yearning for just four hours of continuous sleep.
If you reach out, here’s what I’ll tell you: it gets easier. It will improve. There will be first smiles, first giggles, first words, and first steps. Each moment, each month, they’ll grow a bit more confident and independent—and so will you. Remember, it gets easier.
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Summary
New motherhood is a challenging journey filled with anxiety, exhaustion, and the need for support. This article highlights the importance of kindness and encouragement from unexpected sources, reminding parents that the initial struggles will eventually ease as they and their babies grow.