Why Daycare Was My Preferred Option, Not a Necessary Evil

When you’re expecting, it seems everyone feels entitled to ask the most personal questions. While I navigated these inquiries during my first pregnancy, by the time I hit week three of my second trimester with baby number two, I was pretty much on autopilot: “Due June 7th,” I’d chirp. “My partner is thrilled it’s a girl, thanks for your concern,” I would mumble, rolling my eyes internally. “No, I’m sure it’s not twins,” I’d snarl, imagining unleashing my full pregnant wrath.

At some point, after exhausting their list of prenatal questions, people would switch gears and wonder about our childcare plans. We had always planned on sending our little ones to daycare; I can’t pinpoint how we reached this decision, but a nanny never made it into serious consideration. As a result, we proactively toured a few reputable centers nearby and put our names on waiting lists. Little did we know, choosing daycare is often viewed as almost as irresponsible as leaving a child alone with a bottle and a bag of chips. Daycare definitely has a bit of a stigma.

Fast forward three years and two kids later, and I can confidently say I have no regrets about our choice. While I recognize that many wonderful nannies exist and can be perfect for some dual-income families, I’m here to champion daycare and highlight the benefits it truly offers. Here are six reasons why daycare was the optimal choice for my family:

1. No Need for Employees

Bringing kids into the mix is already a logistical puzzle, and adding payroll into that equation? No, thank you. Sure, some folks pay their nannies in cash, but that’s not my style. If I were to hire someone, I’d want to offer benefits, pay taxes, and handle formalities I’m not equipped for. I’ve interviewed and hired people in my professional life, and not every employee is a gem. Some can be late, some less competent than they seem, and some just plain difficult. The thought of leaving my children with a stranger while they couldn’t voice their needs sent my first-time mom anxiety into overdrive.

2. Professional Daycare Staff

It’s remarkable how many incredible individuals commit their careers to caring for children. They certainly don’t do it for the paycheck (and let’s be honest, daycare fees can be steep, but teachers are often undercompensated). While many professional nannies are equally dedicated, I want to address those who think, “all working moms feel guilty.” I can assure you, I don’t. I miss my kids, but I love my work, knowing they’re in capable hands. The teachers have helped my daughter master napping in a stationary chair, dressing herself, and even drinking from a cup. They’re practically child development experts!

3. A Cleaner Home

I’m not the type of mom who thrives on messy crafts with the kids. If you can maintain your sanity while your toddler transforms the living room into a glitter factory, kudos to you! I enjoy cooking with my kids and playing outside, but art projects? No thanks. Daycare, however, provides all the creative chaos I can’t handle. The amazing teachers happily set up and clean up after sensory activities like finger painting and pottery. This way, I get to enjoy a variety of experiences for my kids while keeping my home relatively tidy—score!

4. Building Immunity Early

The constant illnesses associated with group childcare are a common concern among parents (and yes, my own mom has chimed in). Sure, my kids’ first year in daycare was filled with runny noses and mystery rashes. But keeping them home until preschool won’t save them from the germs they’ll face when they finally start school. It’s a universal truth; kids are destined to encounter the “germ pool” of early childhood. I figure, if I’m going to be expected to work while caring for a sick baby, I might as well let them build their immune systems early.

5. Like-Minded Families

All of the kiddos who play with my kids come from households where both parents work. From an early age, they’ve been accustomed to seeing Mom and Dad drop them off at daycare before heading to work. There’s no confusion about why their parents can’t stay at playtime. Unlike playgroups where kids come with a stay-at-home parent, my children are surrounded by peers who share similar family dynamics. I’m sure they’ll ask about our work schedules as they get older, but for now, I’m happy to cross that question off the list!

6. No Judgement Zone

Whether you’ve found a perfect nanny, embraced the stay-at-home lifestyle, or have children who magically play quietly while you work—there’s no judgment here! Everyone has their own struggles, and we’ve all experienced those classic parenting moments that make you want to run away. But we also share those tender, tearful moments watching our kids grow. So, no matter how you choose to care for your children, if you’re doing it with love, I respect your decision. Just know that daycare isn’t just a last resort; it can be a fantastic choice for many families, including mine, who cherish the care provided to our kids during those busy hours.

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Summary

Choosing daycare was not merely a fallback option for my family; it was a conscious decision that has proven beneficial. From professional care to socialization with other children, the advantages of daycare are undeniable. Whether you prefer a nanny or a daycare center, the most important thing is finding what works best for your family—no judgment here!