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Maternity Leave Isn’t Just ‘Me’ Time
Updated: May 5, 2020
Originally Published: April 29, 2016
If you’ve ever experienced maternity leave, you’ll agree it’s no vacation. Caring for an infant solo—thanks to the often nonexistent paternity leave for dads—while recovering from childbirth is about as relaxing as running a marathon in stilettos.
But wait, it seems that some people have a different perspective. Author Megan Harper penned a book titled “Meternity,” featuring a character who fakes a pregnancy and learns some “eye-opening truths.” Yes, she really pitched the idea of “meternity” leave for those not expecting a baby. Cue the eye-rolls.
Megan writes, “After ten years in a job with constant deadlines, I felt envious watching my colleagues with children leave work at 6 p.m., while those of us without kids were expected to stay late.” If this is true in her workplace, it sounds like a serious issue that needs addressing. However, her solution is to create a new kind of leave that sounds more like a day spa retreat than a legitimate necessity.
She laments that women often choose the traditional paths of weddings, pregnancies, and motherhood in their 20s and 30s. And if they don’t? “That socially mandated time and space for self-reflection may never come.” Seriously? She’s equating maternity leave with a self-care retreat?
Let’s be real: during those early weeks with a newborn, the “reflection” usually revolves around sleepless nights, postpartum recovery, and the heart-wrenching reality of pre-pregnancy jeans that may never fit again. If only those were the deep thoughts we had instead of worrying about how little sleep we could function on or how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of new motherhood.
But wait, there’s more. Megan claims that parenthood offers a degree of flexibility. Honestly, I don’t know about you, but my life has never felt more flexible since having kids. Between juggling sick days, doctor visits, and unexpected daycare closures, my life has been filled with “flexibility.” I distinctly remember one meeting where I attended covered in baby vomit because my son woke up sick, and I had to dash out the door. That’s the kind of flexibility nobody talks about!
Megan romanticizes the time away from work, suggesting that it’s a period of self-discovery that leads to career changes. In reality, many moms are simply seeking a more family-friendly work environment. She seems to think that maternity leave is a luxury filled with opportunities for career reflection.
Her suggestion that both men and women should have “meternity” leave stems from a desire to combat burnout. While breaks from work are undoubtedly vital, those should not come at the expense of parents who desperately need time to recover and bond with their newborns. Maternity leave is not a vacation; it’s a crucial time for mothers to heal physically and mentally while caring for a child who requires their attention 24/7.
Instead of advocating for “meternity” leave, perhaps we should focus on ensuring that parents receive adequate time off after childbirth. It’s absolutely absurd to suggest that those without children need a special leave while many parents struggle to get the support they need.
If Megan wants a taste of what maternity leave is really like, I’m sure many moms would gladly let her experience a grocery run with a baby who just had an explosive diaper blowout. Now that’s a true reflection time!
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In summary, maternity leave is not “me” time; it’s a necessary period for recovery and bonding. Rather than suggesting that those without children deserve the same time off, let’s focus on ensuring all parents get the support they need.