Recently, my partner and I had a heart-to-heart about beginning to save for our kids’ college education. Sure, neither of them is in school yet, but when it comes to finances, it’s never too early to start planning. In 15 years, we won’t have an extra $60,000 just lying around for our daughter’s tuition, and it’s unlikely we’ll have another $60K ready the following year for our son. So, saving now makes sense, right?
But here’s the twist—I don’t believe college is a must for everyone. In fact, I think we’re putting way too much pressure on both students and parents to get their kids into college.
Let’s be real: college isn’t the guaranteed golden ticket it once was. Many of my friends from university can attest that holding a four-year degree doesn’t automatically land you a job after graduation. That’s just not how the job market works anymore, and honestly, it probably never should have. While I want my kids to be independent when they leave our nest, college isn’t the only path to achieving that. It’s a choice, not a necessity.
Of course, there are fields where a college degree is essential. If you have dreams of becoming a lawyer, psychologist, or doctor, then yes, specialized training is a must. But what if you’re passionate about being an artist, an author, or even a car salesman? These professions can bring fulfillment and pride to countless individuals. You don’t need a university degree to find joy in your work.
And let’s not forget about skilled trades like plumbing, electrical work, or waste management. While some of these careers may require training, you certainly don’t need to plunge into $40,000 (or more) in debt to learn the ropes. You might opt for a trade school or even start from the ground up, learning as you go, and working your way up. In fact, these jobs can often be more lucrative than many professions that require a college degree.
People often say that the college experience—the late-night dorm parties, the lifelong friendships—makes it all worthwhile. But does that really justify the staggering student debt? You could just as easily rent an apartment with friends after high school and have a similar “experience” without the financial hangover.
I had a great time in college. I made friends for life, met my partner, and discovered a lot about myself. But was it worth the debt I’m still grappling with? Honestly, I’m not sure. If I could hit rewind, I might have considered a more affordable route to education and growth. Hindsight is a valuable teacher, and I hope to guide my kids in a way that aligns with their passions, whatever they may choose.
I’ll be there to support my children in whatever journey they decide to take—whether that be college, trade school, or even living in an artistic commune. Ultimately, I just want them to find happiness. After all, a college degree doesn’t guarantee a fulfilling life.
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Summary:
College is not the only path to success and fulfillment. While it may be essential for certain professions, many rewarding careers do not require a degree. Supporting children in their chosen paths, whether that be college, trade school, or other pursuits, is vital for their happiness and independence.