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Life Is Preparing Us for Each Other: A Letter to My Future Adopted Child
Dear Future Adopted Child,
Though I don’t know your name yet or even if you’ve taken your first breath, I can’t help but feel excited about the day we will meet. I often find myself daydreaming about you, and sometimes I get a little teary-eyed because you’re not here with me—yet.
What are you up to right now? While I’ve been enjoying my early 30s—marrying your silly dad, building my career, and taking trips to the mountains—I can sense a growing emptiness in my heart. Are you just a tiny spark waiting to come into existence? Or are you caught in a difficult situation, longing for a family? I hope you’re doing alright tonight.
You won’t share my DNA, which makes it hard to envision who you might be. You could be an infant or a 10-year-old who has faced challenges in multiple foster homes. Maybe you have bright blue eyes, dark skin, wild red hair, or perhaps even a resemblance to me. You could be anywhere—from China to Africa to South America.
I want you to know: regardless of where you are or who you are, we were meant to find each other. My life experiences have uniquely prepared me for you.
For the past decade, I’ve devoted myself to teaching preschool. This has opened my heart wide enough to embrace dozens of children, especially those whose own parents aren’t able to be there for them. Each time a little one cried over a scraped knee or sought solace during a thunderstorm, I practiced being a mother. And every time a former student returned to thank me for nurturing their love for art or writing, I felt an overwhelming sense of fulfillment. I can absolutely love you and be your mom, no matter what your past may hold. (Okay, maybe I’ll be a tiny bit jealous, but I promise I’ll manage!)
I have a whimsical, enthusiastic spirit that’s been eagerly waiting to share the wonders of art and kindness with a child. I’ve spent years guiding little ones on how to walk, count, read, and treat their classmates with compassion.
I’ve also worked with foster kids, some of whom were happy, while others carried deep-seated pain and resentment. The challenging ones, in particular, held a special place in my heart because I understood they needed extra patience, kindness, and sometimes a firm hand.
Many well-meaning folks have told me, “You’ll be such a great mom someday!” I know this to be true. It might seem unfair, but it only strengthens the bond you and I will share. While you’ve experienced the heartache of being without parents, I’ve felt the void of not having a child. We know each other’s struggles, which means we’ll treasure our joyful moments together even more.
When my ex-husband welcomed his first child, I felt a mix of sadness and happiness for him—something I could never give him. He understood my pain and reassured me, saying, “You may not pass on your genes, but you will pass on what truly matters: your soul and your spirit.” Those words have comforted me on countless nights as I long for you, my future child. I worry about you, I do. Is your life treating you well? What experiences might you be having before we finally meet? Will you get to know our beloved dog, Bella? She’s a sweetheart and will adore you. I hope you get to meet her.
Will you have the chance to bond with your great-grandparents? They’re always asking about you, wondering when you’ll finally arrive.
Some people search for a soulmate, a partner they are destined to be with. For me, my destiny is you; I’m meant to be your mom. I eagerly await the day we can finally embrace, knowing that life has been preparing us for this moment. Someday, it will all come together.
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In summary, I’m excited about our future together. Life has been shaping us to meet, and I can’t wait for the day you become part of my world.