The Day My Son Went Missing

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It was a sunny mid-morning, with fluffy white clouds scattered across a brilliant blue sky. The air was warm and a bit humid, with a gentle breeze making it feel just right. After running some errands, my two boys and I decided to enjoy a bike ride. We packed a bag with some bread to feed the geese, who had been plentiful lately—wandering streets, rummaging through yards, and herding their little ones back to the ponds in our neighborhood. But on this particular day, it seemed our feathered friends had decided to take a day off.

After pedaling to the last pond without a goose in sight, I came up with a new plan. We would ride back to the first pond, the one closest to our house, and regroup there. My 5-year-old zoomed off in the direction of the pond, and I called after him to slow down and wait for his younger brother and me. He agreed, knowing the routine well—he was good about waiting for our group before moving on to the next spot.

Until that day, when he wasn’t.

Looking back, I can still feel my heart racing as I remember rounding the corner and not seeing him. I raced through the tunnel with my 3-year-old in tow, trying to keep panic at bay. Emerging on the other side, I scanned both directions. No sign of my son. That terrifying call to 911 felt surreal. Just moments ago, I had been admiring how quickly they were growing and sharing one of those beautiful moments of motherhood. And now, my son was gone. How can that happen?

The next twenty minutes felt like an eternity—waiting on the phone with the 911 operator and praying for someone to find him. I sobbed and screamed his name, hoping somehow he could hear me. When they finally found him and he jumped out of the police SUV into my arms, the relief was overwhelming. I couldn’t imagine the anguish of parents who have faced much longer waits.

You might think it could never happen to you, but many seasoned parents would disagree. At some point, your child may go missing—whether it’s in a grocery store, at a park, or even on a bike trail. What you do in those moments can make all the difference.

What to Do If Your Child Goes Missing

1. Evaluate Your Surroundings: Are you indoors or outdoors? Is it a familiar place or somewhere new? Recognize any immediate dangers in the area.
2. Decide Whether to Stay or Go: If your child wanders off, they might return to the last place they remember being with you. If you’re in a grocery store, head to the front and alert an employee who can initiate protocols. If you’re outdoors, staying put is often the best choice.
3. Make the Call: Five minutes without your child is far too long. Don’t hesitate to call 911—every second counts. There’s no shame in asking for help, even if your little one appears before help arrives.
4. Stay Calm: Once they’re found, it’s easy to let relief turn into anger. You might want to express how irresponsible they were, but remember, they were likely just as scared as you.
5. Practice Emergency Protocols: A friend suggested I label my sons’ bikes with my contact information in case of future mishaps. It’s an excellent idea! When he went missing, my son told a woman he was lost, but he didn’t know my number. If it had been on his bike, he could’ve been home much sooner. My husband and I also plan to run emergency drills to ensure our boys know how to respond in any situation.

Above all, cherish your community. I am incredibly grateful for the kindness of my neighbors—like the woman who first found my son and the security officer who helped the police locate him. I owe them all a debt of gratitude.

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In summary, every moment counts when your child is missing. Being prepared and knowing how to react can turn a terrifying situation into a manageable one. Cherish your loved ones and your community.