My children often ask me about my biggest fears, and I find myself at a loss for words. I don’t want to scare them with my true worries. Instead, I typically say I fear something bad happening to them. But deep down, my greatest fear is leaving them to navigate life without me. I know my partner, Tom, would do his best as a single dad, but I witnessed firsthand how tough it was for my father after losing my mother when I was just 16.
The thought of my kids growing up without me terrifies me because I know the impact of losing a parent. After my mother’s death, I plunged into a dark pit of teenage depression. My dad was grappling with his grief, leaving me to face my own struggles alone. I still remember the relentless shock that hit me each morning, a painful reminder that she was gone. My interest in activities we once shared vanished; I quit dance, stopped caring about school, and engaged in reckless behavior. I can’t believe I made it through those years, but somehow, luck and a little divine intervention kept me alive.
Even though it’s been 25 years, I can still easily slip back into those memories of despair. I spent countless nights scribbling my feelings down, trapped in a silent scream for help that no one noticed. I had friends, sure, but no one truly understood the depths of my pain. It wasn’t until I was about 19 that I recognized the signs of my depression, and even then, when I confided in a family member, she dismissed my feelings. It was disheartening; I thought I had finally found clarity, only to be told I was wrong. I didn’t seek the help I desperately needed, and instead, I pushed those thoughts aside and continued my life.
I was fortunate to heal over time, but I often think about how much sooner I could have recovered with the right support. Now, as a mother, I recognize that I was a depressed teen, and the one person I turned to didn’t validate my experience. When my kids ask me about my fears, I hold back the truth, knowing it could frighten them. My greatest worry is that they might face the same struggles without my guidance. Each night, I pray they never have to endure what I did without their mom.
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In summary, the journey through teenage depression after losing a parent is a challenging road filled with pain and resilience. While healing is possible, it’s crucial to recognize the signs and seek help when needed. As a parent, my hope is to support my children through their own challenges, ensuring they never feel alone in their struggles.