8 Insights Single Moms Wish Their Friends Knew

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Single moms come in all varieties, each with their unique stories. While I can’t represent every experience, we often share similar struggles. One significant challenge is how the demands of single motherhood can strain our friendships. If you have a single mom in your life, pay close attention—she might want to share these thoughts:

1. I Often Feel Alone.

   The chaos of sleepless nights, diaper disasters, and endless chores is something many mothers face, but what makes it harder for me is doing it all solo. I lack that partner to laugh with over the silly moments or to vent about the tough ones. You, my friend, are my lifeline. I need your understanding—lots of it. It may seem like single moms complain a lot, but often we just don’t have someone to unload on when we finally get home after a long day. If you offer a listening ear, I promise I have a lot to say.

2. I Apologize for My Friend Failures.

   I know I don’t reach out much; evenings are often consumed with trying to get my little one to sleep. Once that Herculean task is done, I either crash myself or find myself alone, feeling lonely but in need of some “me” time afterward. I miss hanging out with you, but so many obstacles get in the way—energy levels, childcare, and sometimes my own self-esteem. I might seem distant, but I prioritize calling you over my well-being, which is the opposite of what it looks like.

3. It’s Tough to Be Open About Struggles.

   Quick interactions—whether it’s a hurried phone call, a text, or a coffee date interrupted by a toddler—don’t allow for real conversations. Single moms juggle relationship breakdowns, financial woes, parental challenges, and the feeling of isolation. If you want to understand my reality, it requires time and effort.

4. I Struggle to Ask for Help.

   Asking for help has never been my strong suit, and since becoming a single mom, it’s even tougher. I hate admitting I’m struggling, but I’ve learned to do everything on my own. The trust I once had has been shaken, making it harder to reach out. Whether or not help arrives, I have to keep pushing forward, right?

5. I Sometimes Feel Like an Outsider.

   Many single moms experience feelings of not belonging, and the isolation only amplifies that. I don’t quite fit in with my childless friends nor my co-parenting ones. It stings when friends bail on plans; you’re my connection to the outside world, and without you, I feel adrift. I sometimes think about moving, but it’s more than just the physical space—it’s realizing that my life didn’t turn out as planned and feeling left behind.

6. I’m Trying to Stay Positive.

   It might be hard to see among my struggles, but I genuinely try to maintain a positive outlook. My child brings me joy every day, and I know I’m doing my best. Life has knocked me down numerous times, but I always pick myself back up. I’m committed to rebuilding, even if single parenting wasn’t in my original game plan.

7. I’m Sorry If I’m Dull.

   From the once fun-loving friend to the now toddler-tethered one, I realize I may come across as boring. Time away from my little one is rare, and exhausted, isolated single moms don’t have the juiciest gossip to share. I’ve hesitated to suggest meet-ups, fearing that my messy house or a playdate in the park might not interest you. But if you’re up for it, I’d love to reconnect!

8. I Adore My Son.

   Just because I find single motherhood challenging doesn’t mean I don’t think my son is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. If being single is the hardest part, then parenting is undoubtedly the most rewarding.

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In summary, single motherhood can be a challenging but rewarding journey filled with emotional ups and downs. It’s vital for friends to understand the unique struggles single moms face while also recognizing their strengths and resilience.