Oh, You’re Not a Mom? Let Me Suggest Something: Please, Keep Quiet

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Lately, I’ve been reflecting on a lot of things. From the tragic loss of my baby at 17 weeks to the more absurd debates circling around public figures and their actions. In both scenarios, nearly every mother can agree: the death of my little one was an unfathomable heartbreak, not just a lost potential, and every mother deserves to be understood, not judged.

My baby wasn’t merely a dream; she was my child. Just weeks ago, I could feel her gentle movements as she fought to stay with me. She craved life as much as I longed to nurture her. The despair I felt is a mother’s worst nightmare. Regardless of circumstances—healthy or sick, young or old—we all share the same fierce love for our children. In the midst of my grief, I found solace in connecting with other mothers who understand this uniquely painful journey.

Yet, I must confess, I’ve been just as quick to judge others’ parenting styles. Before I became a parent, I thought I had it all figured out. I’d roll my eyes at the parents of loud toddlers on flights and wonder why a mother would let her child run rampant through the grocery store. I had all the answers—breastfeeding? A must! Toddler nutrition? Starve them to create adventurous eaters!

Then life hit me like a ton of bricks. I experienced a love deeper than I ever imagined, coupled with an exhaustion that could rival the worst torture. I learned that motherhood is a 24/7 gig, and none of it can be prepared for. The biggest lesson? Every mother loves her child in ways that are beyond comprehension, and no amount of indulgence or neglect could diminish that bond.

Now, I find myself questioning everything I once thought I knew about parenting. But if there’s one thing I am sure of, it’s this: Before you become a parent, your so-called expertise can leave you looking like a fool to all the mothers out there. You may think you know what’s best, but until you cradle that tiny heart in your arms, you just don’t know.

For anyone who hasn’t yet embarked on the wild ride of parenthood, if you choose to enter this realm filled with worry, pride, and a healthy dose of insanity, trust me—you’ll understand why mothers feel such deep empathy for one another. You won’t be able to dismiss the pain of a mother mourning her child. You’ll feel a part of that heartbreak yourself.

So, before you take that leap and hand over your heart to a tiny human, do all the moms a favor: please, for the love of everything sacred, just hush.

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Summary

This article explores the profound love and challenges of motherhood, reflecting on personal loss and the judgment often faced by parents. It highlights the importance of empathy and understanding within the parenting community while encouraging those without experience to listen more than they speak.