Truth be told, I never envisioned myself as a mother. I wasn’t the girl who daydreamed of cradling a tiny bundle of joy in her arms. In fact, I often questioned my ability to care for a pet, let alone a child.
When I found out I was pregnant at 28, a whirlwind of emotions hit me: doubt, fear, hope, and a good dose of ambivalence. My 20s had been quite the roller coaster, and even those closest to me—my partner, my family, and my friends—were apprehensive as I took the plunge into parenthood.
Then came the day my son was born.
He truly is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, and through this journey, he has taught me lessons about myself I never expected. Here are seven insights I’ve gained from my parenting experience:
- I’m More Resilient Than I Thought
Perhaps it was that mysterious “motherly instinct” kicking in, or perhaps it was the necessity of growing up. Regardless, since becoming a parent, I’ve navigated life’s challenges—like heartbreak, loss, and mental health struggles—without resorting to harmful coping mechanisms. Sure, I haven’t always done it flawlessly, but I’ve made it through. - I Can Handle the Mess
I was aware there would be plenty of diaper changes, but I never anticipated the sheer volume of bodily fluids I’d be dealing with—pee, poop, vomit, and snot in places I never thought possible. I was certain I would crumble under the pressure, but here I am, feeling like a superhero who can tackle any mess. - Life Goes On After Kids
During my pregnancy, well-meaning strangers would warn me about losing my freedom. I was terrified! But now, almost 13 years later, I can confidently say that my life truly began with my child. Yes, things changed, but they changed for the better. - Love Is Unconditional
There are moments when my son has, let’s say, not been my biggest fan, especially when I enforce rules or boundaries. Yet, even in those frustrating times when he says he hates me, my love for him remains unwavering. - I Understand My Parents Better Now
I grew up in less-than-ideal circumstances, and while I didn’t blame my parents outright, their choices often created distance between us. Now that I’m a parent, I see that they were just trying to do their best without a manual. This realization has deepened my relationship with them. - My Capacity for Forgiveness Has Expanded
Before becoming a mom, I was quick to sever ties with anyone who hurt me. However, my son has taught me to forgive—truly forgive—those from my past, including myself. That’s a revelation I never anticipated. - I’m Learning to Love Myself
Before motherhood, self-loathing was my constant companion. However, when I laid eyes on my son, something shifted. For the first time, I realized that I could love someone more than I hated myself, and that opened the door to self-acceptance.
In summary, my journey into motherhood has been filled with unexpected lessons about resilience, love, and understanding. If you’re navigating your own path in parenting, remember that it’s an evolving experience, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. For more insights on fertility and parenting, check out this excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.