You Are Forever a Mother

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Updated: Aug. 3, 2016

Originally Published: July 11, 2016

I can’t say I know what it feels like. That heart-stopping phone call, the dreaded knock on the door. The excruciating stretch of time that follows—days, weeks, months—where the world feels unbearably heavy. Each morning, waking up hoping it was all just a nightmare. Walking past their room, peeking in, wishing to hear the soft rhythm of their breathing. Touching their things, wrapping yourself in their clothes, longing for one last embrace. Sleeping in their bed, trying to feel close to where they once rested. Searching for some sense in the chaos that has upended your life.

I’ve been to the memorials, but I’ve never had to sit in the front row, hiding my face from the crowd. I can’t imagine the wish to crawl into that casket just to hold your child one more time.

But I’ve observed your resilience. I’ve seen you carry on, teaching other children with a kindness that’s unmatched. You listen a bit longer, hold their hands a bit tighter, and hug them a bit harder. You reach out to other mothers who share in this unimaginable loss, putting your own grief aside to comfort them. You wipe their tears, hold their hands, and let them know they’re not alone.

I’ve sat across from you, wishing I could take away just a fragment of your pain, even if it’s for a fleeting moment of peace. Days turn into years, and through it all, you learn to remember the smiles, the laughter, those soft kisses on the cheek.

You may have held your child’s hand for a brief time, but their heart will be with you forever. Their memories, victories, struggles, and accomplishments live on in your spirit. You press onward, knowing they walk beside you, giving you the strength to take each step forward. You never knew how strong you could be until strength was your only option. Motherhood teaches us to discover hidden strengths and confront fears we never knew existed.

Because you are still a mom.

Every fiber of your being encompasses motherhood. Your beauty, empathy, love, and bravery are inspiring. We can all learn from your gentle spirit and your ability to reach out when your instinct might be to pull away. You remind me to value every moment, to appreciate the joy my kids bring, and to navigate the challenges life throws my way. You’ve shown me that perfection in motherhood is a myth, but there are countless ways to be a good one.

Someone once said that being a mother means loving your children more than you’ve ever loved yourself. You exemplify that love.

You are still a mom.

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In summary, motherhood transcends loss and grief. It embodies resilience, love, and the strength to carry on, even in the face of unimaginable heartache. Mothers like you are powerful reminders of the depth of love and sacrifice that defines this role.