An Open Letter to Law Enforcement from an Autism Dad (and a Cop)

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Dear Officers,

Let’s get real for a moment. We’re losing the battle for trust. Sure, we can debate the causes—whether it’s the media’s portrayal or the unrealistic expectations placed upon us. But the hard truth is that many families with special needs feel they can’t reach out to us when they’re in distress. They fear we’ll harm them, judge them, or even take their kids away. And honestly? That’s both heartbreaking and unacceptable.

As a high-ranking officer tasked with training, I have to admit, I share that fear. Yes, I know the ins and outs of our job, but as a dad, I feel that same worry. The power we hold to influence lives is astronomical—and it scares people, including us.

We are in this together. I would go to bat for you. I’m asking for your understanding as you encounter families during their most vulnerable moments. They muster incredible courage to call 911 in a crisis, even when they’re terrified of us. Resist the urge to judge or distance yourself from them. I’m a devoted father, and my wife is an amazing mom. We’re fortunate to have a strong support system. But if you were to judge me based on the four times I’ve lost sight of my son, you might think I’m completely unfit for parenthood.

Families like mine are on high alert 24/7. It’s been 11 years since my wife and I enjoyed a meal uninterrupted at a family gathering. We take turns watching over our son, sleeping in shifts, and keeping one ear tuned to the sound of the chain latch on our back door—not because we fear intruders, but because we worry about our son wandering off. We’re always conscious of the judgmental looks from strangers. Even a quick trip to the grocery store requires meticulous planning. It’s exhausting.

But let me be clear: I’m not looking for pity. This isn’t a tragedy—leukemia is a tragedy. This is a challenge. And sometimes, our best isn’t enough. Sometimes, we need help. Sometimes, we need you.

I’m your biggest fan. I’m your loudest cheerleader. I’m here shouting from the rooftops that you are, without a doubt, the good guys. But it’s a delicate balance. One negative headline can spread faster than wildfire and warp public perception. I urge you to open your hearts and minds. Learn about our families. Approach us with genuine curiosity and empathy. We desperately need you.

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Summary:

In this heartfelt letter, a police officer and autism dad addresses the fears that families with special needs have when seeking help from law enforcement. He emphasizes the importance of understanding, empathy, and support from police officers, urging them to recognize the courage it takes for these families to reach out in times of crisis.