The Moms Who Seem to Disappear in Family Photos Are All of Us

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Isn’t it funny how moms often seem to vanish in family photos? I’m the designated family photographer, so there are countless snaps of my kids and their dad, while I’m nowhere to be found. When we visit relatives, they snap endless photos with the kids, and guess who’s missing? Yep, me! If you browsed through our family album, you might think my cousin is the one raising my kids—she has more photos with them than I do. What gives?

Seriously, someone else needs to take the camera for a change!

The brilliant moms from The Break Womb recently released a hilarious video highlighting the absurdity of this phenomenon. Check out these photos from our last family reunion—there’s my mom, my grandparents, my great-aunt Rita, and oh look! There’s just a sliver of my shadow by Uncle Ted’s foot. And here’s one where I’m in it! You can barely see my hair blowing into the frame. Then there’s our beach day picture where my reflection is caught in my friend Tim’s sunglasses. We totally captured the whole family there, right?

It’s amusing because it’s so true. We really need to start appearing in these photos, moms. How many of us have little to no proof that we even exist in our children’s lives? Here’s one shot where my friend Valerie is laughing at something I said—so at least you can see my words, right?

A few years back, Allison Slater Tate poignantly addressed this issue in her viral post, “The Mom Stays in the Picture.” Her words resonate perfectly: “I’m everywhere in their young lives, and yet I have very few pictures of me with them. Someday I won’t be here—and I don’t know if that someday is tomorrow or thirty or forty or fifty years from now—but I want them to have pictures of me. I want them to see the way I looked at them, see how much I loved them. I am not perfect to look at and I am not perfect to love, but I am perfectly their mother.”

YES! Let’s make it a point to get in the picture, moms!

For more insights, check out this other blog post on our site about privacy. And if you’re looking for great resources on pregnancy and home insemination, don’t miss out on this excellent blog from Kindbody.

In summary, moms often find themselves behind the camera, missing from family memories. It’s time to change that narrative and ensure our children have snapshots of us being present in their lives.