An Open Letter to the TTC Sisterhood

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If you’re reading this, dear sister, I want to start by saying I’m truly sorry. I’m sorry that amidst your best efforts to remain positive and grateful, you wake up each day with a heartache that feels like a weight you can’t shake off.

I’m sorry for the relentless questions from folks who don’t understand your journey with infertility. You know the ones:

• “When are you planning to have kids?”
• “You just need to chill out, and it’ll happen!”
• “Have you considered tracking your cycle?”
• “Adoption might be a great option for you!”
• “Perhaps your body is trying to tell you something.”

I’m sorry that you have to suppress the lump in your throat before it turns into tears, and the anger that simmers just beneath the surface before you respond with the grace you can barely muster.

I’m sorry you pass by that unfinished “guest room” daily, a reminder of the nursery that was once a dream and now just a ghost of what could have been. I’m sorry that your relationship has been tested by the trials you’ve faced together. I’m sorry that every baby shower invitation feels like a punch to the gut instead of a source of joy.

I’m sorry you haven’t yet made your parents grandparents, even though you know they’d be incredible at it. I’m sorry you carry that guilt with you. I’m sorry you watch life unfold around you while your world feels like it’s crumbling.

I’m sorry that the emotional toll isn’t your only burden. I’m sorry you’ve found yourself in debt trying to create the family you’ve always dreamed of. I’m sorry that a simple diaper commercial can bring tears to your eyes because you’ve held it together just long enough to get through the day without anyone noticing the sadness you carry.

I’m sorry you feel like your body has betrayed you. I’m sorry you sometimes feel isolated in this struggle, but let me remind you, you are not alone. I’m here with you.

The truth is, you don’t need me to remind you of all the reasons why I’m sorry to be part of this TTC sisterhood — you live it every single day. You carry the same heartache and struggle that I do. Right now, maybe what you need are all the reasons I’m not sorry.

I’m not sorry that you’ve learned to love yourself for your incredible strength and bravery. This journey isn’t easy, but every morning you still find that inner strength, even when it feels depleted.

I’m not sorry that you’ve become vulnerable with those you care about. Sharing infertility can be daunting, but vulnerability is a form of bravery, not weakness.

I’m not sorry that this experience will make you an even more compassionate mom one day. You’ve developed patience and a gentleness that only comes from navigating such heartache.

I’m not sorry your pain has given you a voice to help others who feel alone. I’m not sorry you’ve discovered the essence of true friendship by nurturing meaningful connections while letting go of less fulfilling ones.

I’m not sorry you’ve learned to be there for your partner in a way that strengthens your bond rather than drives you apart. I’m not sorry you’ve prioritized your own needs, placing them ahead of others, which is crucial in this process.

I’m not sorry you’ve had to put your faith in something uncertain, yet you’ve still come to appreciate the hope that always exists. I’m not sorry that your journey through infertility has taught you to be grateful for what you do have and to cherish the little things that make life beautiful.

I’m not sorry we’re all in this together. Whether we’re separated by miles or connected in spirit, we share the same story. So, even if just for today, try not to regret being part of this sisterhood. We are some of the strongest women I know, and we’re in this together.

If you’re seeking more insights and support, check out resources like Progyny for valuable information on pregnancy and home insemination. For those interested in practical approaches, visit Make A Mom to explore options for at-home insemination. And for those curious about intracervical insemination, take a look at this post for a deeper understanding.

In summary, while the weight of this journey can be heavy, there’s a community of strong women who stand with you, sharing in both the heartache and the hope.