Let’s be real: married sex can get pretty predictable. And while I’ve got no desire to dive back into the dating pool and deal with the complexities of new relationship intimacy, I can’t help but notice that relying too much on the reliability of married sex can dull the excitement. Sure, I’ve been known to pull the classic “I’m too tired” excuse or roll over after a less-than-stellar experience, but it’s high time we reignite that spark. Here are seven things we should definitely avoid doing if we want to keep the passion alive.
- Ditch the Nail Clipping Mid-Date: Seriously, don’t clip your toenails and then act like you’ve just prepped for a big night out. I’ll promise to stop calling my messy bun a “fancy updo” if you can meet me halfway on the grooming front. Let’s put in a little effort, shall we?
- Turn Off the TV: If you think turning on the TV will set the mood, think again. I’d prefer not to hear the latest episode of some random show while we’re trying to get cozy. And I absolutely refuse to rush through intimate moments so I don’t miss the season finale of a series.
- Cuddle Afterward: Seriously, if I just gave you a rather impressive performance, the least you can do is hold me afterward. A little cuddling goes a long way in keeping the intimacy flowing.
- No Couch Snoozing: If you promise me a night of fiery passion, don’t crash on the couch instead. I’m guilty of this too, but how about we skip the elaborate date and just have some fun on the couch like we used to do, followed by raiding the ice cream stash?
- Let’s Try a New Kind of Netflix and Chill: This time, let’s skip the shows and look up some adult content together. We can turn that chill into something a lot more exciting. Who knew cardio could be so enjoyable?
- Leave the Stress Outside: Please don’t bring up bills, kids, or the dog’s vet appointment while I’m trying to show you my newfound twerking skills. I promise to keep the talk of leaky faucets out of the bedroom if you do the same.
- Explore New Ideas Together: I’ve done some research on fun and slightly adventurous activities that we could try together. I’d love for you to join me in exploring new things instead of just standing there with a puzzled look while I explain something wild I read about. And maybe we can steer clear of grapefruit, too.
I know that with all the craziness of family life, intimacy often takes a backseat. However, it’s vital that we strive to make our time together sensual and enjoyable, even if it feels a bit awkward at times. Sometimes, a bit of monotony can be comforting, much like enjoying dry toast when under the weather. But let’s not forget that excitement, fun, and passion are essential ingredients in our relationship. If we play our cards right, we could still be those quirky old couples who keep the flame alive.
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Summary
Keeping the spark alive in married life can be a challenge. By avoiding some common pitfalls, like neglecting personal grooming or getting distracted by TV, couples can reignite their intimacy. Simple changes, like cuddling afterward, avoiding stressful conversations, and exploring new ideas together can lead to a more fulfilling bedroom experience. It’s all about making the effort to keep things exciting!