It may seem a bit blunt, but since becoming a mom, my patience for unnecessary nonsense has dwindled to nearly zero. To outsiders, I might come off as distant or selfish, but honestly, I’m just trying to stay afloat—being the best mom I can be, not messing up my little one too badly, and keeping my partner somewhat content.
These tasks might sound straightforward, but maintaining any semblance of balance in my home feels like a Herculean task. Juggling my family’s daily needs is about all I can manage.
The nonsense can be overwhelming. It drags us down and prevents us from reaching our full potential. It lets outside influences dictate our happiness, and often, it has nothing to do with us—yet we still get pulled in.
Nonsense can take many forms. It might be problems that demand solutions, unsolicited advice, or someone expecting you to do something that doesn’t sit right with you.
I used to think I could tackle everything. I was the queen of handling nonsense—until life knocked me down a peg. I lost weight (not the good kind) and gained a hefty dose of anxiety. The nonsense was literally consuming me—and most of it wasn’t even mine to deal with. It was the nonsense I had chosen to take on, and the accumulation of small moments made me realize I needed to make a change.
Life already comes with enough unavoidable nonsense: cleaning, homework, grocery shopping, paying bills, doctor visits, and car maintenance—just to name a few. These responsibilities are what we label as “adulting,” but let’s face it—they’re a lot of nonsense. I’ve come to understand that I can only handle the mandatory nonsense.
As a lifelong people-pleaser, I’ve always strived to be the perfect daughter, friend, and sibling. But now, I’m focused on being the best wife and mom possible. My newfound “no-nonsense” perspective has been a tough adjustment for those around me. I’ve had to set boundaries and stick to them. I’ve had to learn to say no and accept that some might be upset with me. I’ve had to skip Bunco nights, baby showers, and social gatherings. I’m discovering my limits and learning to embrace them.
Above all, in my parenting journey, I’ve had to assert, “This is my child, and we’ll raise him the way we see fit, even if it differs from your approach. I might rush him to the doctor at the slightest cough. I may delay swim lessons until I feel he’s ready. I might serve meals you deem unhealthy. And I won’t allow him to do everything you let your child do. But remember, he’s not yours to raise.”
There have been arguments. There have been standoffs. There have been instances where family members had to leave because they couldn’t respect our boundaries. Relationships have shifted, and that’s just part of life. As we grow, things change—not just in our marriage but across all our relationships.
Some changes are for the better, some for the worse, but mostly, they just end up being different. And you know what? I’m good with that.
Once you let go of the nonsense, everything seems a little brighter. You walk with confidence because you’ve shed that extra weight. Don’t let the nonsense steal your happiness. Being a mom is challenging enough!
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Summary
Being a mom comes with its own set of challenges, and there’s no need to add unnecessary stress. By eliminating the nonsense and setting boundaries, you can focus on what truly matters—your family. Embrace your journey and remember, it’s okay to prioritize your well-being as you navigate the beautiful chaos of motherhood.