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Interval Momming: Prioritizing My Sanity
I’m not what you’d call a Type A mom — not even in the slightest. If I were to grade myself based on societal standards, I’d probably land somewhere around a C+. But if my fellow moms from the realm of “Not So Perfect” were measuring my parenting prowess, I’d be off the charts. And honestly, those are the moms I want in my corner.
Once the haze of postpartum depression lifted, I came to terms with the fact that I wouldn’t be the super mom who could juggle breastfeeding, all the Pinterest crafts, cooking homemade dinners every night, and reveling in every playdate at the park. My best friend aptly dubbed me the Three-Hour Mom, a title I wear with pride.
You see, I can handle parenting in three-hour bursts. I call it “interval momming.” After three hours, I’m ready for a time-out — be it a nap, a glass of wine, or just a moment to breathe before diving into the next round. Sometimes those three hours are filled with hugs, laughter, and all the sweet moments — but other times? They’re riddled with cries, tantrums, and the relentless “Mommy, Mommy, Mommy” chorus.
After what feels like an eternity of three-hour intervals, I find myself desperate for a break — an adult getaway. Okay, let’s be real: after just a few days of this cycle, I need a vacation. Can you blame me? Imagine checking into a hotel solo, free from the tiny humans and the sometimes man-child you share your life with. You step into your room and behold a massive bed, all for you.
Without delay, you shed your clothes, slip into a plush robe, and dive into those crisp, clean sheets that you didn’t have to launder. Then, you fall asleep, waking up whenever you please — maybe to room service and a glass of wine. Yes, please! You can relish every bite of that brownie sundae without having to hide it from little hands.
As you sink into a food coma, it’s finally time to enjoy Netflix — and I mean the real deal, just you and your shows. No distractions, no interruptions. You could even choose to indulge in some solo fun if that’s what you’re in the mood for!
The next morning, you wake up without an alarm blaring at 6 a.m. and decide whether to venture out or simply repeat the bliss. When you finally return to the chaos of motherhood, you feel recharged, ready to tackle what lies ahead. But then, just three hours later, you might find yourself asking your son to watch TV because you can’t muster the energy to play. And suddenly, you’re “sick” with a migraine as your husband walks through the door, ready to take over parenting duties.
While I embrace my Three-Hour Mom status, it does create an inner conflict — the tug-of-war between being that attentive mom and an independent woman who craves freedom. I know I can be both, but sometimes I just want to be me. So, I make the most of my time with my family, whether that means letting the TV entertain my son while I steal cuddles or scheduling playdates so I can connect with adults.
I want my son to feel loved and happy, and that starts with me being happy. That’s why I prioritize my Three-Hour Mom breaks whenever possible. School and camp have been game-changers, allowing my son to learn and grow while I sneak in some much-needed “me” time. Shopping alone is like a mini-vacation — who doesn’t love wandering the aisles of Target without a tiny human in tow?
Every few months, I make an effort to take a short solo trip, whether it’s leaving a few days early for a family outing or going on a girls’ trip with friends I don’t see often. Next month, I have Campowerment lined up for four glorious days. I do this unapologetically. After all, we give so much as moms and women; taking time for ourselves is not just okay, it’s essential.
Some might scoff at the notion of being a Three-Hour Mom, labeling it as laziness. But I know my limits and what I need to maintain my sanity. I deserve to be a priority in my own life. I’m the Three-Hour Mom, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Honestly, you should give it a go!
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In summary, embracing the concept of “Interval Momming” allows moms to prioritize their mental health while still being present for their children. It’s about finding a balance between self-care and motherhood, ultimately leading to a happier family dynamic.