As life unfolds, friendships can ebb and flow. From the carefree days of childhood to the whirlwind of college, then to marriage and the ultimate adventure—parenthood—I’ve cycled through many friendships. Thankfully, I’ve managed to maintain a solid group of pals, some of whom have been by my side for ages. As my little one turns one next month (cue the denial), I want to share some thoughts for my friends who knew me before I embarked on this journey of diaper duty and baby giggles:
- I appreciate your good intentions, but some days, I feel like a stranger in my own body after bringing a tiny human into the world. If I complain about missing my pre-baby size 4 dresses, just nod and offer some kind words (even if you secretly think it’s a stretch).
- And on that note, please refrain from asking for my old clothes. They might fit again someday… just not today.
- If I must pick between a social life and sleep, sleep wins every time. Exercise? Sleep. Netflix? Sleep (but I’m totally down to binge-watch with you if you want).
- Pregnancy and parenthood are beautifully chaotic and downright exhausting. I’m not comparing myself to a soldier, but if you’re interested in my “battle stories,” I’d love to share.
- I dream of a night out for margaritas and tacos, but alas, my child is still a little too attached for that.
- I adore your pup, but when I’m running on three hours of sleep, please don’t liken my sleepless nights to your dog waking you up for a bathroom break.
- Your support for my parenting choices is invaluable. Even if you don’t fully understand them, knowing you’ve got my back means the world when I face judgment for nursing in public or enjoying a glass of wine while pregnant.
- Thanks for offering to help with the diaper bag. Little gestures like this make my day.
- I sometimes miss the good old days—like sleeping in until noon. Honestly, I’d settle for 9 a.m. at this point.
- Brunch is our lifeline, bridging the gap between our pre-baby and current lives. It’s perfect for three reasons: day drinking, delicious food, and the social acceptability of sipping cocktails around kids.
- I know it may seem like we have little in common now, but beneath the tired eyes and milk-stained shirts, I’m still the same person.
- For those of you dreaming of parenthood but facing hurdles, I want you to know I believe in your journey. You’ll be an amazing parent when the time is right.
- Thank you for babysitting so I can sneak in a shower/meal or just scroll through BuzzFeed and Facebook for a blissful ten minutes.
- Motherhood has transformed me for the better. I’ve gained a newfound confidence I can’t quite put into words, and I hope you feel the same way when you decide to start your family.
- I cherish how you embrace my child just as warmly as you’ve embraced me as a friend. Your love and support shine brightly.
As we navigate this unpredictable journey of life and parenthood, it’s clear that friendships evolve. To those who have remained by my side, brace yourselves—we’re in for an exhilarating ride. For more insights on this topic, check out our other blog post here. And if you’re looking for authoritative information on at-home insemination, Make a Mom can provide valuable resources. Additionally, for comprehensive details on pregnancy, visit MedlinePlus.
Summary
Navigating friendships through different life stages, especially after becoming a parent, can be challenging yet rewarding. This piece offers insights for childless friends to understand the unique experiences of their parenting pals, emphasizing appreciation, support, and the ways in which relationships can adapt.