For years, I grappled with the idea of letting myself fail. Concerned about what others might think, I found comfort in conformity, especially since my older kids seemed to effortlessly fit into the mold of success. They thrived in school and accepted every challenge I presented without question.
However, after welcoming four new children into our family, it dawned on me that this relentless pursuit of achievement was actually detrimental to their well-being. Finally, I found the courage to say “no” and allow my children the freedom to simply be kids. As their parent, I realized I could set the values and standards that mattered most to us, and that grades or tests wouldn’t define their worth.
The turning point came one evening when I was drained from coaxing my daughter to finish her homework. Tears streamed down her face, and it hit me—this was my agenda, not hers. As a former educator, I had my doubts about the necessity of homework for young kids, yet I was still pushing her to complete it. That night, I had an epiphany: homework had become a measure of my success, not hers. In her tear-filled eyes, I saw the longing for childhood, and I made a vow to reclaim it for her and her siblings.
The following day, I marched into the school and told the teacher we would be opting out of homework grades. I returned home and began reflecting on my choices and the messages I was sending. Inspired, I penned a letter that I believe captures what children today wish to voice.