Good news for all you moms with daughters! Turns out, that persistent nudging may actually be a secret weapon in helping your girls thrive. A study out of the University of Essex found that daughters with “nagging” mothers—though that term might make us cringe, since we’re simply trying to guide our kids—are more likely to attend college, secure better-paying jobs, and steer clear of teenage pregnancy compared to those with more laid-back moms.
Led by researcher Mia Thompson, the study tracked over 15,000 girls aged 13 to 14 from 2004 to 2010. It revealed that high parental expectations significantly influenced the girls’ life choices. Interestingly, it was the expectations of the “main parent,” typically the mother, that had the most impact. So, here’s to the nagging—we’ve earned it!
As someone who grew up with a mom who had lofty expectations (and wasn’t shy about sharing them), I can personally vouch for the effectiveness of this approach. I’m convinced that my determination to not flunk high school was fueled by the fear of my mom saying, “I told you so.” Spoiler alert: I graduated, thanks to her well-intentioned reminders!
The study indicates that even if teens act like they’re tuning us out—an all-too-familiar scene—it doesn’t mean our voices aren’t echoing in their minds. Mia Thompson noted, “In many cases, we succeeded in doing what we believed was more convenient for us, even when this was against our parents’ will.” So yes, moms, we’re making a lasting impression, even if our daughters roll their eyes at our advice!
Now, what about those “cool moms” who avoid nagging? Are their daughters doomed to end up in sticky situations? Not necessarily. The research showed that parents with high expectations could decrease a teenager’s chances of becoming pregnant by four percent when compared to those with “middling aspirations.” So while 4% might not seem like a huge difference, it’s worth considering how we can make our expectations count.
For me, I’ll keep doing my nagging routine, but now with a little more swagger. It’ll be all about those cheerful reminders: “Good morning! Brush your teeth and remember, don’t get pregnant!” and “Good night! Set your alarm and steer clear of drugs.” And every time my daughter shoots back with “I know, Mom,” I’ll smile, knowing I’ve got a cozy little corner in her brain.
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In summary, it seems that a little maternal nagging can go a long way in shaping our daughters’ futures. High expectations can lead to significant benefits, and even if it feels like they aren’t listening, our voices stick with them. So keep on encouraging, moms!