Navigating My Daughter’s Anxiety: A Journey Together

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I’ve dedicated countless hours sidestepping fear, taking the long route to dodge those dark, tangled woods of anxiety. It’s a draining, solitary trek filled with hurdles and absolutely no GPS. My journey has been peppered with compulsions and unrecognized distress, where I blamed myself for outcomes and conjured up a false sense of control. I masked it well, which only deepened the loneliness.

When I watch my 6-year-old, Emma, grapple with her own anxiety, I can’t help but fear that one day she’ll retreat into herself, and I won’t be able to reach through the mist to bring her back. Sure, that sounds a bit dramatic, but that’s the nature of anxiety—it paints the bleakest picture, reminding us of our lack of control and daring us to challenge it.

“Mommy, I’m scared. I had a dream that the smoke alarm went off and I didn’t hear it, and the house caught on fire and I died.”

Oh boy, that alarm was blaring in my head as she recounted her nightmare. I can only draw from my own experiences with anxiety, and this felt all too familiar. While I worried about tornadoes, she’s taken on the fear of fire alarms. What should be a normal concern about fire has morphed into anxiety about the very device that would warn us of danger. A steamy bathroom? Instant panic. And for a while, she would ask if the windows were too high to jump out of. My little girl was envisioning leaping from windows!

Emma is a natural worrier, and that fire fear is just one example. Thankfully, that particular fear eventually fizzled out, but what comes next? I can provide her with reassurance and plans, but the line between preparation and reinforcement feels blurry. I don’t want to pave her way around challenges; I want to teach her how to face them head-on. But how can I do that when I’m still figuring it out myself?

As parents, we often hope our children embody the best parts of us—sharing our values, beliefs, or even taking up the family trade. But with the good comes the bad; there’s no checklist for what they’ll inherit. Emma has my crafty spirit, an affinity for all things shiny, and perhaps even my anxiety. Fingers crossed she inherits her dad’s musical gifts to balance out her knack for missing things that are right in front of her!

It’s vital to remind myself daily that our children are not carbon copies of us. They are unique individuals, shaped by bits of us but ultimately their own person. Some challenges will resonate with us, while others they’ll navigate independently.

My goal is to equip Emma with the tools she needs to bravely venture into those woods and emerge on the other side; to help her recognize and understand this clingy companion called anxiety, which tries to protect her but often oversteps its bounds. I want her to grasp that anxiety isn’t a sign of failure, nor is it a destination. It’s not something to dodge, but it’s also not a place to set up camp.

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In summary, navigating the landscape of anxiety with our children can feel daunting. By acknowledging their fears and equipping them with the skills to confront challenges, we can guide them toward resilience. We’re all figuring it out as we go, and that’s perfectly okay.