When you step into the world of motherhood for the first time, you’re bombarded with advice, tips, and anecdotes from others about their experiences. Thirteen years into my own journey, while I still have much to learn, I’ve unearthed some essential truths—realities that extend far beyond the basics of getting your baby to eat, sleep, or mastering the art of potty training. Some of these lessons have been challenging, requiring me to put my pride aside. There have been days I’ve ignored that nagging feeling inside me that something wasn’t right for my family, simply because it seemed like the “norm.”
Every new mom should recognize when to dig deeper or when to retreat to the bathroom for a moment of peace or take a solo drive. Taking a break isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a display of strength and self-awareness.
Every new mom should understand that there will be times when her child screams, cries, or throws tantrums, and no amount of soothing will help. This doesn’t signify failure; it’s just part of the parenting experience.
Every new mom should know it’s perfectly normal not to savor every single moment. Wishing for bedtime doesn’t make her a bad person.
Every new mom should realize she’s not alone. Adjusting to motherhood can be tough, and everyone faces their own struggles—even if they don’t openly share them.
Every new mom should feel free to change her mind. Whether it’s about her birth plan, feeding methods, or sleep routines, flexibility is key.
Every new mom should give herself permission to slow down, to say no, and to recognize when she’s reached her limit. She should let go of anything that doesn’t nourish her or her family.
Every new mom should know she has the power to reshape her circumstances if they don’t feel right, and she can do this without needing to justify her decisions to others.
Every new mom should accept that judgment and criticism are inevitable. But she should forge ahead confidently, knowing what works best for her.
Every new mom should understand that she is enough—she matters and deserves to treat herself occasionally.
Every new mom should remember that tough days will come, and while they may feel all-consuming, they are just temporary.
Every new mom should learn that just because someone does things differently, it doesn’t mean they’re doing it better. Advice can be helpful, but it’s okay to trust her instincts.
Every new mom should heed her inner voice, especially when it warns her to avoid certain situations or people.
Every new mom should accept that mistakes will happen, but her kids will love her just the same.
Every new mom should feel empowered to ask for help—she should keep asking until she gets the support she needs.
Every new mom should prepare for long nights. Sometimes a baby will keep her up, and other times, she’ll be the one unable to sleep.
Every new mom should learn to cope with feelings of regret or inadequacy; these feelings are part of the journey that even the best moms experience.
Every new mom should practice patience—especially with herself.
And above all, every new mom should know that through her children’s eyes, she is perfect. No matter how lost she might feel, she is exactly what they need.
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In summary, motherhood is a beautiful but challenging journey filled with ups and downs. Embrace your uniqueness, trust your instincts, and remember that you are doing a great job!