Let’s be real for a moment: I never bothered to teach my kids the standard Thanksgiving story. Since they’re homeschooled, I had the freedom to skip the age-old tale of Pilgrims and Native Americans sharing a turkey dinner. My boys have never donned black construction paper hats or crafted feathered headdresses. The typical narrative about Squanto helping the English by planting fish heads with corn? Never crossed their minds. And honestly, I’m thrilled about that.
I didn’t sugarcoat anything. I was straightforward and truthful. I feel fortunate to have avoided the Great American Myth in favor of the stark reality: the truth is, we committed atrocities against American Indians (I prefer this term over “Native Americans”). When the Pilgrims and others arrived, they found a land rich in diverse cultures and histories, but they were quick to assume it was theirs by divine right. This misjudgment was fueled by the fact that many indigenous populations had already been decimated by diseases like smallpox brought by earlier explorers.
You can ensure your kids learn the truth too. It’s not rocket science; it just requires a willingness to confront uncomfortable realities.
Start the Conversation
Start by talking to their teachers. Discover what they’re teaching about Thanksgiving. If it strays from the truth, express your concerns. Remember, the teacher might not even realize they’re perpetuating a myth, so approach with kindness. Offer educational alternatives, like resources about the Wampanoag tribe and lesson plans that present more accurate narratives.
Avoiding Harmful Stereotypes
Make sure their learning materials avoid harmful stereotypes. Dressing kids as “Indians” is problematic—it’s akin to redface, which is just as offensive as blackface. It’s essential to clarify that Thanksgiving centers on one tribe, the Wampanoag, and their leader. Each indigenous group has its unique culture and history. Squanto helped the Pilgrims because he had previously been kidnapped and enslaved in England, giving him familiarity with their language. While some Pilgrims sought religious freedom, many were equally motivated by profit. It’s crucial to understand that this wasn’t a time of religious tolerance; Pilgrims were often intolerant of other faiths, particularly Catholicism.
Discussing Genuine History
Discuss the genuine history of Native Americans with your kids. I don’t need to elaborate on the ongoing cultural genocide inflicted by white settlers. Key points include warfare, diseases, land theft, forced relocation to reservations, and the struggles that persist today—like poverty and alcoholism.
For my children, this isn’t an extraordinary topic. We don’t just tackle it in one sitting; they learn about the history of American Indians throughout the year. We listen to documentaries about life on reservations and attend cultural presentations. My son, a fan of arrowheads, often connects our lessons to those artifacts. I ensure that our discussions are age-appropriate, but we never shy away from these critical truths.
Redefining Thanksgiving
Instead of celebrating Thanksgiving with Pilgrims, we focus on understanding the rich diversity of Native cultures. In November, we explore various tribes, including the Wampanoag, the Apache, the Sioux, and the Cherokee. Find out what tribe is connected to your area, and delve into their unique histories.
When it comes to Thanksgiving dinner, you don’t have to overhaul your traditions. The original feast was a communal event to celebrate the harvest—not a day for solemn prayers of thanks. While they may not have had turkey and cranberry sauce, they did enjoy a week of festivities. That’s one detail we might want to honor more accurately.
By taking these steps, you can help your kids understand the true history of Thanksgiving, ensuring they appreciate the complexity of this holiday and the cultures it represents.
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Summary
Teaching children the truth about Thanksgiving is essential for fostering a realistic understanding of history. By discussing the complexities of Native American experiences and promoting cultural awareness, parents can ensure that their kids appreciate the rich tapestry of American history without falling victim to outdated myths.