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Maternity Leave Tips I Wish I’d Known
For first-time working moms, maternity leave can feel like stepping into a whole new world. Before baby, our lives revolved around long hours at work, juggling responsibilities, and constantly trying to climb the career ladder. We were always plugged in, checking emails and ticking off to-do lists. But believe me when I say, welcoming a baby into your life will turn everything upside down.
Having just wrapped up a three-and-a-half-month maternity leave after 15 years in a job I adore, I have a treasure trove of insights—some I embraced, and others I wish I had ignored. Caring for a newborn is by far the toughest job I’ve ever tackled, and it’s nothing compared to my day-to-day grind.
The initial weeks are the biggest learning curve. If you’re anything like me, you’ll likely work right up to delivery (which I definitely don’t recommend). When that sweet little nugget finally arrives, transitioning from high-paced work life to baby care doesn’t happen overnight, despite the exhaustion and constant diaper changes. You must consciously unplug and dedicate yourself to your new role as a parent.
In those early days, whenever the baby napped, I felt an overwhelming urge to clean, do laundry, or tackle my to-do list. It wasn’t until month three that I realized how fleeting this time was and that I wouldn’t get it back. As I prepare to return to work, I can’t help but think about the advice I wish I had received as a first-time working mom heading into maternity leave. Keep in mind that every mom and baby are unique, and circumstances vary widely. Some moms enjoy paid leave, some have job protections under the Family Medical Leave Act, and others rely on short-term disability or unpaid leave. Here’s what I wish someone had told me, so I wouldn’t have any regrets about heading back to work:
- Squeeze in a Nap Every Day
Trust me—this is the one thing I’d prioritize if I could do it all over again. You’ll never catch up on sleep at night since babies wake two to three times. Even if you can’t sleep, just lying down and resting is beneficial. I discovered that afternoon naps were the most effective for me, especially after the caffeine buzz wore off. - Get Out of the House
Maternity leave can feel lonely, especially if you’ve had a C-section and can’t lift anything heavier than your baby for weeks. Whether it’s a walk, a new moms group, or a trip to Target, make sure to step outside. My first outings were chaotic; I forgot essentials like my phone and diapers. But eventually, you’ll get the hang of it. Plus, a little time away can recharge your batteries. - Indulge in a Postnatal Massage
Your body goes through so much during pregnancy and childbirth. I wish I’d treated myself to more than one massage sooner. It was a blissful way to unwind. - Avoid Checking Work Emails
My colleagues were incredibly supportive and would get upset when I peeked at my inbox. It took me until the final month of my leave to mostly stop. Your work can wait—this time is precious and irreplaceable. - Tune into Parenting Podcasts
While pregnant, I absorbed all the books about pregnancy, but once the baby came, I was lost. Parenting podcasts like The Parenting Junkie and Mom and Mind became my go-to for practical advice and sanity savers. - Build Your Mom Tribe
I had tons of questions after having my baby, and while I had mom friends in other states, I sought out local connections. Joining a new moms group and creating a Facebook group with friends helped tremendously. Our online community is now over 240 members strong, sharing advice and support. - Take a Baby Trip
When my baby was just eight weeks old, we ventured to Washington, DC. The morning of our flight was a circus, but thanks to my online mom tribe’s tips, we managed a smooth journey. Remember, staying in a hotel with a baby can be a blessing—less cleaning and often better sleep with blackout curtains. - Express Gratitude
Everyone loves a baby, and they shower you with gifts. Handwritten thank-you notes may feel tedious, but they’re a heartfelt way to express your appreciation for the beautiful items you received. - Test the Daycare Waters
Securing a spot at daycare can be a hassle, and we started a couple of weeks before I returned to work. I took my baby in for short visits, helping both of us acclimate to the routine. - Start Leave Early
If you can swing it financially, consider taking a week off before your due date. Trust me, you’ll appreciate that time to rest. - Organize a Meal Train
This was a lifesaver during those early weeks. A friend set one up for us, and it allowed us to enjoy meals without the stress of cooking. - Ease Back into Work
If possible, take advantage of any family leave options available to you. I’m working four days a week and working from home one day, which helps soften the blow of returning to the office. - Treat Yourself
Ice cream and a glass of wine can be your best friends while navigating the challenges of new parenthood.
And lastly, keep a watchful eye on postpartum depression. It can creep up out of nowhere. I was proactive about my mental health, and it made a world of difference. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, reach out to a doctor or a trusted friend. These early days should be cherished, so focus on bonding with your little one and taking care of yourself.
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Summary
Maternity leave is a transformative time for new moms, and the adjustment can be challenging. Key tips include prioritizing rest, getting out of the house, indulging in self-care, and building a support network. Remember to take care of your mental health and cherish the moments with your baby. Preparing for your return to work can be made easier with small adjustments and community support.