Dear Dads: Here’s What Your Children’s Mom Truly Needs From You

Hey there, Dads!

Have you ever noticed how much we moms chat about the ups and downs of motherhood with our fellow moms? We gather in online forums to share our triumphs and struggles, form mom groups for support, and dive into blog posts to remind ourselves we’re not alone in this chaotic journey.

But let’s face it, you dads often find yourselves outside that circle, despite being such a vital part of our lives. We frequently discuss what you’re doing right and what we wish you’d do more of, but you might not always hear those conversations. And honestly, that can be a bummer for both of us.

So, here’s the scoop: if you’re ever uncertain about what your children’s mom really needs from you, listen up!

Give Her Some Alone Time.

One of the best gifts you can offer your wife is to send her out of the house for a few hours on her own. And no, I’m not talking about grocery shopping (unless she loves that solo!). I mean genuine free time without family or household duties. Even if you split chores and childcare evenly (we’ll touch on that later), your wife likely feels the weight of those responsibilities more acutely when she’s at home. Assure her the kids will be totally fine in your care and encourage her to take off. If she’s unsure how to spend that time, suggest browsing Target, catching a movie, or even indulging in a manicure. Whatever makes her happy—guilt-free!

Provide a Clean Sanctuary.

This one’s a twist on the first tip, but just as crucial. Sometimes, moms with little ones crave a serene space to recharge. If you can tidy up the house and whisk the kids away for a few hours, you’ll see her spirits soar.

Share the Household Chores.

If your wife seems overwhelmed, it’s likely because managing a household while raising kids is an endless—often unpaid—job. Whether she works outside the home or is a stay-at-home mom, it makes sense to share household responsibilities fairly. Pick a couple of chores you don’t mind tackling and take them off her plate. Bonus: You’d be amazed at how attractive you become when you’re doing dishes or whipping up a meal. Seriously, don’t underestimate that!

Express Your Appreciation.

Life can be hectic, and even if you can’t help out as much as you’d like, it takes little effort to express your gratitude. Running a household and raising children is hard work, and it often goes unnoticed. It’s practically impossible to tell your wife she’s amazing too many times. Say it loud, say it proud!

Capture Moments with the Kids.

Make it a habit to snap photos of your wife with the kids, both individually and together. Guarantee she has loads of just the kids, and maybe some of you and the kids together. Do this when she looks particularly put together but also during everyday moments. Trust me, when my grandmother passed away, finding pictures of her with her kids at various ages was incredibly meaningful. A photo of your kids with their mom is a treasure for both them and her.

Remind Her She’s Beautiful.

Motherhood can shake a woman’s self-image in many ways. Personally, I believe it makes women more beautiful, but that’s not always the message we receive from society. It’s crucial for us to hear that you find us attractive—not just when we’re dressed to the nines or in the mood. My partner sometimes tells me I’m stunning while I’m lounging in pajamas with no makeup. That simple affirmation means the world.

Of course, every woman is unique, so use your judgment here. But many of these suggestions are pretty universal. If you really want to impress your partner, don’t wait for her to ask—be proactive!

None of these actions is monumental, yet each can create a significant positive impact. Choose a few from the list, incorporate them regularly, and watch your wife light up. Trust me on this one!

Sincerely,
Your New Best Friend

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