I stepped into the world of parenthood in 2006, and let me tell you, it was an incredible, awe-inspiring experience. Since then, I’ve welcomed a daughter in 2008, married a wonderful guy who also has a daughter, and now we’re expecting our first child together—due in just 78 days! Each little one has expanded our hearts beyond measure, but let’s be real, parenting has also gotten a bit…well, tricky.
Let’s face it: parenting today is no walk in the park. We’re constantly trying to figure out what rules and boundaries suit our unique family dynamic. It feels like there’s this unspoken checklist we’re all racing to complete—a finish line we must cross at the end of each day to prove we’ve achieved “good parent” status.
But where does this pressure come from? Part of it is our own minds, but we also have a plethora of well-meaning folks who love to chime in with their opinions, both asked for and unasked. There’s the influence of media (seriously, don’t follow that yoga instructor on Instagram while pregnant), and then there’s the endless stream of questions that make you second-guess your every decision.
- “Are you using cloth diapers?”
- “Making your own baby food is way healthier than that store-bought stuff.”
- “Oh, so you’re planning to exclusively breastfeed?” (Look at me picking up the lingo!)
- “Isn’t X amount of screen time a bit too much?”
- “So, you’re only taking that short of maternity leave?”
- “Studies show it’s better for babies to be in daycare earlier, just so you know.”
And vaccinations? Let’s not even go there.
One of the amusing aspects of being pregnant almost a decade after my youngest is that strangers often assume this is my first child, making all their unsolicited advice even more entertaining and aggravating.
Here’s my reality: we won’t always nail it, but we learn and adapt as we go. Parenting is a rollercoaster—just when you think you’ve got your kids figured out, they grow and change, especially when you’re juggling preteens and a newborn, like us!
We do our best and when we stumble (and believe me, it happens), we pick ourselves back up and ask, “What can I learn from this?” It’s crucial to silence the negative chatter—both from ourselves and those who love to offer “helpful” parenting tips. We build confidence in our decisions, knowing that we’re acting in the best interest of our family. We reflect on our own childhood experiences and modify our parenting style to create a happier and healthier environment for our kids. Isn’t that the goal for all good parents?
Often, we mistakenly seek validation from others, allowing their opinions to shape our self-esteem. There are plenty of naysayers, sometimes even among friends or family. But honestly, none of that matters. The only opinion that truly counts is your own.
At the end of each day, we face ourselves in the mirror, knowing we did our best—because it’s all about taking it one day at a time. If today wasn’t great, that’s okay; tomorrow is a new chance. Remember, even the best parents have bad days, and it doesn’t define your abilities.
So, be kind to yourself. Appreciate the miracle you’re nurturing or have nurtured. Embrace that growing belly, even if it’s causing sleepless nights and bathroom trips every 13 minutes. Tune into your body and that little inner voice guiding you. There’s no parenting manual that truly prepares you, but if you listen to yourself, you’ll find the right path.
This morning, a quote popped into my head (I’ll share it in a moment), which I think I stumbled upon on Pinterest while searching for “how to be a good parent.” This journey is uniquely yours and your partner’s. It’s about tuning out anything that doesn’t serve you (even your own thoughts sometimes). Over 200,000 years of human evolution have prepared you for this moment—you are well-equipped! Take advice that resonates with your soul and disregard the rest.
“Though the days may feel long, the years are fleeting.” So, enjoy every moment and stop stressing about reaching that elusive “perfect parent” status—starting now!
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In summary, remember that parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs. Be gentle with yourself, trust your instincts, and embrace the beautiful chaos of raising kids.