When I was 18, I thought I was all set for college. In reality, I was just eager to escape my parents, enjoy some underage drinking, and bask in the freedom of no curfew. But was I genuinely ready to make serious decisions about my career? Not even close! Neither were most of my fun-loving classmates during those wild four years, but boy, did we enjoy ourselves.
As we stand at the altar, proclaiming, “I do, and I will love you forever,” do we truly comprehend the commitment we’re making? We’re vowing to be loyal to one person for eternity, even when they chew too loudly or drive us absolutely bonkers. Of course, we have no idea what we’re really signing up for, since we’ve never made such a promise before. Yet, we convince ourselves we’re ready (or at least hope we are) and take the plunge.
Are We Ever Really Ready?
Are we ever really ready for anything? We might feel prepared, but there’s a world of difference between feeling ready and being genuinely prepared. When we tackle major life changes for the first time, we can’t really know if we’re equipped for it until we’re knee-deep in the experience. We might be ready for certain aspects—like the thrill of Taco Tuesdays or a bit of romance—but that doesn’t mean we’re prepared for the whole ride.
There are also times when we recognize we’re not quite ready for something, yet we dive in anyway. An experience might still feel natural, and even if we don’t have everything sorted out, we proceed because it matters to us. As time goes on, we often look back and think, “Wow, I was just a kid when I did that. What made me think I was ready?” That’s exactly what runs through my mind each time I reflect on my first pregnancy.
My Journey into Motherhood
I thought I was as ready as anyone could be for motherhood. I had longed for a child, counting down the days until I could meet him, documenting every kick, and wearing maternity clothes way too early. I talked about it so much that I’m sure my friends wanted to throw me a going-away party.
Then he arrived, and I quickly realized I wasn’t ready at all. Not even a little bit. I wasn’t prepared to care for another human being, to feed him every two hours, or to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of sleepless nights. I found myself crying all the time because deep down, I knew I wasn’t ready, but I did it anyway. We always find a way to rise to the occasion.
The Value of Experience
The saying “ignorance is bliss” exists for a reason. After plunging into a multitude of experiences before feeling truly ready, I’m grateful I took that leap. What if I hadn’t? I wouldn’t have three wonderful children and a whole lot less growth, learning, and mishaps along the way.
Regardless of whether we feel ready or not, life keeps rolling on. Our kids grow up, relationships change, loved ones face challenges, and we encounter disappointments. Sometimes we can’t control what life throws at us, and other times we can. But we never truly understand what it’s like until we’ve been there ourselves. Each challenge we face, even when unprepared, equips us for the next one.
I’m not suggesting we should skip preparation for significant life events, nor am I saying to jump into situations we’re not ready for. However, some experiences can only be fully understood through firsthand involvement. We brace ourselves for the journey, and we take it one day at a time.
The beautiful thing is that we usually emerge on the other side, often as better individuals. And believe me, I’m ready for another boozy Taco Tuesday to help me navigate the whirlwind of life. You should join me on this adventure!
Further Reading
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Summary
The journey into marriage and motherhood often feels daunting, and the truth is, we may never feel fully prepared for these life transitions. While we can be eager and excited, the reality of these commitments only becomes clear when we experience them. Ultimately, we learn and grow through each challenge, becoming stronger and more resilient along the way.