There I was, seated in front of the principal of a private school, realizing I might pass for a teenager rather than a parent. I tried to maintain an air of composure and warmth, masking my inner chaos. After sharing my son’s story—just enough to give context to a stranger—I was taken aback when she chuckled and asked, “What does ‘gifted’ even mean?”
I get it. Gifted children often come with stereotypes: they’re either seen as socially awkward nerds or the unfortunate byproducts of overzealous parents. Society views them as “special” or “elite”—terms that have taken on a negative connotation in recent years. The assumption is that life will be a cakewalk for them. So, how dare we request additional support?
Hearing an educator echo my reservations stung. Even with my son’s impressive test scores in hand, I felt like a fraud—a mom who wanted to siphon resources from less fortunate kids to benefit my already “blessed” child. To her credit, she meant that their program would adapt to each child, but I couldn’t help but wonder if she would have laughed off a question like, “What is dyslexia?”
What Does It Mean to Be Gifted?
So, what does it mean to be gifted? It often involves long conversations with pre-K teachers who admit they can’t cater to your 4-year-old’s advanced learning needs. They might suggest your child can stay, but the inevitable decline in engagement is looming. It’s touring private schools (that are well beyond your budget) only to hear they won’t allow acceleration because their programs don’t extend much beyond public school standards.
It’s making countless calls to school boards across your province, feeling crushed each time you hear about “gifted programs” that promise depth but provide little more than a standard curriculum. It’s the heart-wrenching decision to homeschool because your once-enthusiastic child is now anxious and refuses to pick up a book, fearing they’ll be different from their peers.
Being gifted means confronting the reality that your child might never fit the mold of “normal.” Sure, normal has its drawbacks, but there are school events like pageants and proms that they may miss out on. Witnessing their attempts to discuss passions with friends, only to realize the chasm between them can be heartbreaking. Each milestone is met with trepidation rather than joy because, apparently, they aren’t supposed to achieve that yet.
The Isolation of Giftedness
It’s isolating. As a parent, you might face accusations of hothousing when the truth is you’re just trying to keep up with an endless barrage of questions. Sometimes, you find yourself propping your child up in bed with educational videos on just to grab a quick nap. It’s begging for help, only to be told to let your child enjoy their childhood, while you feel guilty for suggesting they take a break from their latest math obsession—even if you’re already late.
Giftedness often means your child’s educational needs are overlooked due to concerns about handwriting or age-appropriate behavior. You hear that school is primarily for socialization, but how much genuine interaction occurs when children are seated at desks for eight hours? Gifted kids are frequently dismissed as “fine” because they’re perceived as ahead, even though they are among the most at-risk for dropping out. Giftedness doesn’t guarantee success, and it’s not always about being academically inclined or perfectly behaved; sometimes, it’s the complete opposite.
Finding Joy Amidst the Challenges
Yet, there’s another side to it too. It’s discovering joy in a book, marveling at the wonders of science and math, and cherishing the thought-provoking questions that a preschooler can pose. It’s finding unexpected support from people who understand without needing an explanation. Amidst the challenges, the real gift lies in recognizing those moments of joy.
But perhaps you’re wondering about the facts. Giftedness is a neurological variation marked by advanced cognitive abilities and is classified as a special need. So, why not provide these children with the same basic services that any other child with special needs receives? It shouldn’t be a matter of either-or; shouldn’t we strive for all?
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Conclusion
In summary, raising a gifted child is a complex journey filled with both challenges and rewards. It’s essential to acknowledge their unique needs while advocating for the resources they deserve, just as any other child would receive.