Last autumn, I reached a breaking point with my work-life balance and decided to quit my job. To my surprise, just two months later, I found myself back in the same role, but this time, on my own terms. It felt a bit like being the office boomerang! That time off allowed me to pause, reflect, and figure out what I truly wanted for my family and career. (If only every mom could take a little extra maternity leave when the kiddos hit ages 4 and 6!) Here are five lessons I picked up during my time off:
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The Grass Isn’t Always Greener.
Having the chance to experience both the working mom and stay-at-home mom lifestyles in such a short span taught me a valuable lesson: both roles come with their unique challenges. There’s a tendency to envy the other side, thinking it must be easier. During my commute, I would see moms heading to yoga or coffee dates and feel a twinge of jealousy. But once I was home, clad in my trusty Spandex and ponytail, I longed for the rush of office life. My old commute, which I used to dread, became a cherished time for NPR and a moment of solitude. Well, except for the time I got rear-ended—thanks, universe.
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Speak Up!
I’ve always been a people-pleaser, saying “yes” until I’m completely drained. After leaving my magazine job, I learned a new publisher had come on board and was making positive changes. When he reached out to see if I wanted my job back, I hesitated but agreed to a meeting. With nothing to lose, I finally found the courage to ask for what I truly wanted: the option to work from home and more flexibility. To my surprise, he agreed!
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Let Go of Mom Guilt.
During my break, I found joy in taking my kindergartner, Finn, on field trips and having quality time with my younger son, Max. I learned from fellow stay-at-home moms that it’s perfectly okay to have adult conversations rather than constantly entertaining the kids. I realized that spending too much time with them can sometimes backfire. After I quit, I noticed Finn’s behavior flaring up, leading to parent-teacher meetings filled with negative reports. It turned out he didn’t appreciate being picked up while his peers stayed longer. He actually thrived on the routine of a babysitter, teaching me that he needs to see I have my own needs too.
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It’s Okay to Say No.
This is a tough one for me! As a perfectionist, I’ve always set sky-high expectations, which has caused me stress. With social events, school commitments, and family obligations piling up, I realized I had to start saying no if I felt overwhelmed. Otherwise, I risk losing my precious balance and ending up failing at everything.
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Pursue Your Passions.
When I decided to return to work, I had to explain to Finn and Max why I changed my mind so quickly. I told them the magazine needed my expertise, and my new boss was a gem who respected my family commitments. I emphasized that my career is important to me, and it’s why I invested so many years in my education. Writing and sharing my experiences brings me joy, and after a fulfilling day at work, I return home even more engaged and ready to be present with my family.
In conclusion, my brief stint away from the office taught me invaluable lessons about balance, communication, and the importance of pursuing what I love. For those considering similar transitions, remember that it’s never too late to redefine your career path to suit your needs.
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