We’ve all been there—using words without realizing their impact, then feeling frustrated when they’re deemed unacceptable by the “politically correct” crowd. At first, I didn’t see who I was hurting or how language could shape perceptions and attitudes so powerfully. But now, after reflecting on the words I’ve used, I feel regret. Language has the ability to normalize harmful ideas and marginalize entire groups. Unlike the childhood rhyme, “sticks and stones may break my bones,” words can leave real scars.
Of course, there will be critics who label me a snowflake or deride political correctness as nonsense. But there are many who genuinely want to understand what’s appropriate to say—whether in casual conversation or more formal settings. Even those of us who consider ourselves progressive can sometimes be caught off guard by certain terms. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of words to reconsider, along with explanations on why they might be problematic.
Lame
When someone describes a video as “lame,” it implies that being physically disabled is equivalent to being worthless or dull. This word’s origins are rooted in ableism, and it’s time to let it go.
Retarded
Once a clinical term, “retarded” is now often used as an insult to imply stupidity. This is particularly harmful to individuals with cognitive disabilities, as it perpetuates stereotypes that associate intelligence with worth. Words like “tard” and “tarded” carry the same weight—let’s leave them behind.
Psycho/Crazy/Schizo/Bipolar
As someone living with bipolar disorder, I find it disheartening when terms like “psycho” or “crazy” are thrown around lightly. These words diminish the seriousness of mental health conditions and trivialize the experiences of those who suffer from them. Please think twice before using them.
Gay
Saying something is “gay” to mean dumb is not only hurtful but also reinforces negative stereotypes about the LGBTQ+ community. Let’s keep this word where it truly belongs: describing sexual orientation.
Papoose
This term, borrowed from Native American culture, should not be used lightly, especially by non-Native speakers. It can come across as disrespectful and appropriative, so it’s best to avoid it.
Pocahontas
Using Pocahontas as a nickname for someone of Native descent reduces a rich culture to a single historical figure. This is reductive and disrespectful—let’s honor individuals and their diverse backgrounds instead.
Spaz
Short for “spastic,” this word refers to a medical condition and should not be used to describe someone who is overly excited. It diminishes the challenges faced by those who live with these conditions.
Gypped
This term has roots in a racial slur against the Romani people and implies dishonesty. It’s a word that carries a lot of baggage and should be retired from our vocabulary.
Butthurt
Originally stemming from physical punishment, this term has evolved and can now evoke connotations of sexual violence. Its implications can be triggering for many, so it’s wise to steer clear of this one.
Cotton-Picker
This term has a long history tied to racial slurs against African Americans. Using it, along with similar phrases, can perpetuate harmful stereotypes—let’s choose our words wisely.
You might think I’m overly sensitive or that words don’t hold that much sway, but denying their power is a mistake. The language we use shapes the world around us and often reveals biases against marginalized groups. When individuals who are impacted by these words express pain, the least we can do is listen and adjust our vocabulary accordingly.
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In summary, words have power, and it’s crucial to be mindful of how we use them. Let’s strive to communicate with compassion and understanding.