To the Mom with the Challenging Child

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I see you, juggling your little one while standing in line at your favorite coffee shop. No matter what you try, your baby is wailing, with angry red splotches emerging under his eyes. I notice you glancing around, silently apologizing to everyone around you, but I know what’s racing through your mind.

You want the world to understand that your baby has these moments without any apparent reason. You’re putting in the effort, even if it seems otherwise. It’s tough—really tough. No matter what you do, he just keeps crying. And often, you’re shedding tears too, feeling worn out and defeated.

You’d leave the café right now, but let’s be real—you really need that caffeine boost.

Fast forward a few years, and I see you again, trying to wrestle your toddler into his car seat. When he’s upset, he simply refuses to sit. It’s like he transforms into a superhero with the strength of ten men, wriggling out of that seat like a pro wrestler. You’ve offered him the iPad, promised a trip to the park, and even dug out those last few chocolate kisses from the depths of your purse, but nothing works. He’s so deeply entrenched in his emotions that he can’t let go.

I watch as you press him down into his seat, tears welling in your eyes. That same look I saw years ago when he was just a baby—the look that asks, “Who is this little person with the fiercest spirit? Did I do something to make him this way? Is this just who he is? Why is it so hard?”

And then, years later, I see you walking him home from school. The thud of his backpack hitting the floor echoes, and soon after, you hear him scream as he collapses onto the floor, fists pounding in frustration. You’re talking to him softly, offering a snack (because we know he’s starving), trying to reason with him as best as you can.

But when he spirals, it feels like there’s no escape—at least not for a while. So, you sit with him in that quiet room, witnessing his body shake with sobs, those familiar splotches reappearing under his eyes, now dancing across his cheeks.

I can hear the thoughts racing through your mind: “Aren’t 7-year-olds supposed to outgrow these meltdowns? Is my child the only one with after-school breakdowns? When will this ever end?”

Oh, mama. It’s so challenging, isn’t it?

I want you to know—I see you. I know who you are.

You’re the mother of a spirited child, one who’s been this way from the start. Your baby was the high-needs infant—the one who required constant attention, who cried incessantly and couldn’t be put down. Your toddler was prone to tantrums and could not be redirected or distracted by the promise of something fun. Punishments? Time-outs? Those never worked for your little one, at least not like they do for others.

Nothing seemed to do the trick. When your child feels something, they feel it deeply and can’t simply brush it off. Even now, as a tween or a teen, they’re different from their peers. They express their feelings openly and honestly, with no filter. This is just who they are.

But let me tell you—there’s a bright side to this. I see a child who loves intensely, whose interests are rich and meaningful, always genuine. This child is bursting with creativity, using their natural sensitivities to dive deep into their passions. They are persistent and dedicated to whatever they pursue.

With you, this child may seem like a handful, and they probably always will be. You are their safety net, their haven. This child will always ride the emotional rollercoaster, feeling everything so intensely, especially at the most inconvenient moments.

In the thick of it, it can be so hard to see beyond the chaos. It’s tough to recognize the beauty when you’re in the midst of an emotional eruption. But that’s just because we live in a world that often doesn’t acknowledge BIG FEELINGS.

Hang in there, mama. I see you. I understand you. I am you. I know that child who tests your limits—the one you worry might become a misfit or struggle to find their place. But that’s far from reality. One day, this child will shine in their own way. I can’t say exactly how, but I know it will be extraordinary, something special. They will light up the universe with their spirit, authenticity, and truth.

So hold on tight, gather all the patience you can muster, and trust that you are nurturing an incredible soul—a true gift to this world.