10 Strategies for Surviving Life with Your Threenager

March 13, 2023

Before my little one hit the big 3, I heard the term “threenager” tossed around. I thought it was just a fun way to label the newfound independence and sassiness of a toddler who thinks they’re all grown up. What I didn’t realize was that this age comes with a hefty dose of moodiness, stubbornness, and the occasional tantrum that could rival a rock concert. Honestly, the “terrible twos” now seem like a gentle stroll through a Disney park compared to the whirlwind that is 3. If I could go back, I’d relive those twos in a heartbeat to avoid the chaos of threenagerhood.

Since my son turned 3, my once charming little guy has morphed into what some might call a tiny tyrant. Every question is met with a defiant “no!” and simple requests can trigger epic meltdowns. As a work-from-home mom, I often find myself in a never-ending cycle of exasperation, wishing for a brief escape from the madness. But the truth is, I’m not alone in this struggle. Many parents face similar challenges, and after chatting with fellow moms (some still in the trenches, others who’ve emerged on the other side), I’ve gathered some foolproof coping strategies.

1. Get Outside

Sometimes a change of scenery is all it takes. Whether it’s a quick stroll to the store or a leisurely walk around the block, getting outside can ease the tension. As my friend Ava puts it, “Running away is my therapy!”

2. Snack Time for You

This isn’t about satisfying the little ones; it’s about you! Indulging in treats like cookies or chocolates can be a delightful way to cope. On occasion, I’ve been known to hide some goodies in my cheek like a chipmunk.

3. Pour a Glass

At the end of a long day, nothing beats unwinding with a glass of wine, a cold beer, or whatever floats your boat. “Drink. A LOT,” says my friend Bella.

4. Take a Breather

After yet another round of “that’s not how you make a sandwich,” find ways to relax. Whether it’s a bubble bath, some calming tunes, or a bit of pampering, self-care is key. Or, as my friend Maya suggests, “Try some herbal relaxation.”

5. Watch Your Shows

Treat yourself to a guilty pleasure. For me, it’s binge-watching music videos on YouTube. “I escape into home renovation shows,” says my buddy Lisa.

6. Make Some Noise

If chaos is the norm, why not add to it with some chosen noise? Whether it’s singing or playing music, embracing the racket can lighten the mood. “I love belting out ‘Yellow Submarine’ with my kids!” – Sarah.

7. Be Silly

Sometimes, a dose of goofiness can turn things around. If your child is in a tantrum over shoes, try putting them on your own hands or pretending to faint from their smell. Laughter is often the best medicine, as Mike shares, “I try to get my son to laugh instead of sulk.”

8. Dance It Out

When all else fails, crank up the tunes and have an impromptu dance party. “When either of us is feeling grumpy, dancing always helps!” – Jenna.

9. Listen to Feelings

Sometimes, all a child wants is to feel heard. Acknowledging their emotions can diffuse a meltdown. “Letting them express how they feel often calms the storm,” says Rita.

10. Time Alone

And yes, there are moments when you just need a break. “My doctor suggested locking the bedroom door from the outside once in a while. It’s been a lifesaver,” shares Lila. “I’ve survived with wine and some quality bathroom time.”

I know this challenging phase won’t last forever, but when I’m in the thick of it—telling him for the umpteenth time to stop climbing on the furniture—these coping strategies remind me that a little self-care goes a long way. And since I can’t just kick him out (yet), these tips help keep my sanity intact.

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