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Raising Good Humans: Let’s Ditch the ‘Special Snowflake’ Nonsense
Before I became a parent, I held some pretty rigid beliefs about child-rearing. I thought that giving in to a child’s whims or letting them negotiate would only create insufferable brats. I was determined to be the firm authority in my kids’ lives. And hey, I’m not ashamed to admit it. Many parents have shared similar sentiments before they dove into the unpredictable waters of parenthood.
It’s easy to judge from the sidelines—like when you’re out for a fancy dinner and a toddler is wailing “I don’t like you” to their exasperated mom. It’s a moment that often leaves you feeling less than charitable. Anyone who’s ever been in that situation and thought, “Oh, he’s just expressing himself,” is likely far more compassionate than I was. They might have also been enjoying a drink or two.
Most parents are keen to raise decent human beings. We all know it’s our responsibility to guide them. But just because you see a parent allowing their child to voice their opinions or have a meltdown doesn’t mean they believe their child is a delicate flower that should never face disappointment. It also doesn’t mean that kid is destined to be a spoiled brat who can’t handle reality. If you’re quick to judge a parent based on a brief encounter, well, guess what? You’re the real problem.
Every family has its own unique approach to parenting. Sometimes, we engage in discussions with our kids, and yes, we let them express themselves—because they’re real people with feelings that matter. For instance, when my son wanted to buy a set of bright red plastic shot glasses, my initial worry was about the mess he might create, not what other parents might think. But when he explained how much he loved them and how they’d be perfect for his milk, I realized I needed to listen. I let him have those glasses, and now he enjoys his “mini cups” while sipping milk like he’s at a fancy gala. Honestly, it’s one of the best investments I’ve made, and he’s learned gratitude and respect through it all.
Let’s face it: kids are smart, and we sometimes react too quickly, shutting them down when they might have something valuable to say. Our kids are not machines; they’re humans who need the space to make choices, even if they’re small ones at first. I remember when my son was told he shouldn’t wear a necklace because he was a boy. His response? “I like it, and someone I care about gave it to me, so I’m wearing it.” If I hadn’t encouraged him to express himself, he might not have found the strength to stand up for his preferences.
By allowing our children to articulate their thoughts and feelings, we’re empowering them. This isn’t just about now; it’s about instilling confidence that will serve them well throughout their lives. They need to learn to advocate for themselves, and why wait until they’re adults to give them that skill? I believe in teaching my kids to speak up respectfully and thoughtfully now—because they deserve that voice.
If my parenting style means my kids are labeled as “special snowflakes,” then I’m completely okay with that. Parenting in 2023 looks different than it did for previous generations. We’re offering our children more choices and opportunities because we want the best for them. We’re reminded to “know better, do better,” and I’m putting that into practice every day. And if my kids are any indication, I’d say I’m doing pretty darn well.
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In summary, parenting is about enabling our children to express themselves while guiding them with respect. By fostering a supportive environment, we are raising thoughtful, assertive individuals who can navigate the complexities of life with confidence.