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I’m Happier Than Ever, But Therapy Is Still My Weekly Ritual
I often come across memes and posts that resonate with mothers, capturing the complex emotions tied to parenthood. We laugh about needing a morning coffee IV and a nightly wine funnel just to survive the chaos of the day. We nod in agreement that those Instagram photos of adorable, smiling babies don’t quite reflect the reality—often countered by snapshots of toddlers dunking their heads in toilets or rolling in paint.
These humorous moments bring a smile, knowing we’re not alone in our struggles. Yet, behind the laughter lies a more serious truth: the mom chugging her fifth coffee might be battling extreme fatigue and loneliness, while the one who sips a glass of wine occasionally could be grappling with a nightly routine of needing at least two glasses to unwind. And then there’s the mom who keeps cancelling plans, likely overwhelmed by anxiety that makes stepping outside with her baby feel daunting.
We often say women should uplift each other rather than judge. Still, it’s tough for many to openly discuss their challenges and coping strategies. Personally, my weekly therapy sessions have been instrumental in navigating my own struggles. I don’t shy away from sharing this, but when I mention therapy, I occasionally receive comments like, “But you look so happy! Do you really need a therapist?”
The issue with such remarks is they subtly imply shame instead of support. Many women find it easier to share stories of self-sabotage rather than self-care. It’s more socially acceptable to laugh over devouring a tray of brownies after a tough day than to acknowledge the importance of scheduling time for healthful meals, yoga, or therapy appointments.
Shaming women for being unable to care for themselves is harmful, but so is criticizing those who do. It’s essential to recognize that seeking therapy is not only acceptable but commendable. Engaging in personal growth through therapy can be a difficult journey, forcing us to confront fears and uncomfortable feelings. Yet, it ultimately leads to a sense of empowerment.
I began therapy during a period of anxiety and sleepless nights. Initially, I reached out to providers in my insurance network without fully understanding the changes I needed in my life. Fast forward a few years, and I was a transformed person—happy, independent, and proud of my growth.
Then, life threw me a curveball. One day, far from home, I noticed a painful bruise on my eye. It became painfully clear that the emotionally abusive relationship I was trying to escape had escalated to physical abuse, leaving me paralyzed with fear.
Surprisingly, I was content in many aspects of my life, but I felt trapped in a cycle of needing to change everything at once. Trusting others became a challenge, but I knew I needed that safe space again, so I reached out to my therapist. Her genuine concern during that session validated my feelings, and with the support of family and friends, I was able to reclaim my life.
Years later, I still attend therapy weekly. My life has transformed into a true reflection of my journey—I’ve found love, married my amazing partner, and we have a beautiful daughter. Our families have united in a show of love and understanding that is unparalleled. Balancing my family life with a fulfilling career has its challenges, but I strive for harmony every day.
So, for those who wonder, yes, I am authentically happy. I share my joy in therapy, alongside the complexities of transitioning into marriage and motherhood. I express the bittersweet feelings I experience each morning when leaving my daughter and the immense gratitude I have for her wonderful caregivers.
I also celebrate the incredible women I work with, each one managing the balancing act of family and career. They lift me up on mornings when I feel like I’m failing, reminding me that we are in this together.
This piece aims to highlight the power of empathy. When empathy thrives, so does awareness, understanding, and acceptance. This is what we often seek when scrolling through social media or dreaming of a night with our closest friends.
If a woman opens up to you—whether about her happiness or struggles—be empathetic. Show kindness and be present. You might just be the support she needs.
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Summary
This article discusses the importance of therapy in maintaining mental health, even amidst happiness and personal achievements. It highlights the challenges mothers face and emphasizes the need for empathy and support among women.