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Are Older Moms the Better Moms? Science Says Yes, Probably
I’ve never been one to follow the latest fads, but when it came time to start my family, I unknowingly became part of a growing group of women dubbed “advanced maternal age.” Yes, that’s right—welcome to the club, Ethel and Dolores, where we embrace our well-traveled, slightly cranky wombs after the age of 35.
Sound a bit disenchanted? Well, who wouldn’t be, given the avalanche of alarming statistics directed at women who choose to have children later in life? We hear about the heightened risks, potential fertility issues, and the increased likelihood of developmental challenges for our little ones. Not to mention, we’re often diagnosed with gestational diabetes and other delightful health surprises more frequently. And let’s not forget the constant reminders of how “old” we’ll be when our kids head off to college.
So, you can imagine my delight when I stumbled upon a study suggesting that older mothers might actually have a leg up on their younger counterparts. What’s the secret sauce? Wisdom—of a sort.
Published in the European Journal of Developmental Psychology, researchers found that older moms often come equipped with emotional intelligence, thanks to their years of life experience. This “psychological maturity” translates into children who tend to be better adjusted behaviorally, emotionally, and socially compared to those raised by younger moms.
While science hasn’t nailed down exactly why this happens, it’s clear that older mothers often enjoy higher levels of education, stronger relationships, and better financial stability. But perhaps it’s simply the benefits of age: dealing with stress becomes less daunting when you’ve weathered a few storms, which might mean the difference between staying calm during a meltdown and totally freaking out when your toddler takes a header off the couch.
As I approach my own 30s, having waited until I was settled in life—having finished school, traveled, and bought a house—before having kids, I find myself experiencing less stress than some of my younger mom friends. Could age be a factor? Maybe.
However, here’s the kicker with all these studies about motherhood and age: does it really matter? While researchers ponder the behaviors of moms, I can’t help but think that we should be focusing on creating communities that are more inclusive, supportive, and understanding of all mothers.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could shift perceptions about motherhood? Imagine standardized maternity and paternity leave that help families bond without financial strain. Or how about universal healthcare prioritizing quality of life over insurance profits?
While I appreciate that science finally has some positive insights about us “older” moms (because let’s face it, I’m tired of feeling like my reproductive system is a relic), I believe it would be even better if scientists and policymakers worked together to create a safer, more nurturing environment for all parents.
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In summary, studies suggest that older mothers may bring certain advantages to parenting, largely due to emotional intelligence gained from life experience. However, the focus should be on fostering a supportive environment for all mothers, regardless of age.