As a single parent, diving back into the dating scene can feel like navigating a minefield—especially when you’re juggling childcare and trying to carve out time for a date that’s actually worthwhile. The landscape of dating in 2017 is vastly different from what it used to be, with societal issues playing a significant role in our choices. For those of us reentering the dating pool, the types of questions we ask potential partners have shifted considerably.
Political Views
First and foremost, let’s tackle the elephant in the room: political views. This isn’t just small talk; it’s crucial to know where your date stands. So, don’t hesitate—ask them about their 2016 vote within the first few minutes. If they supported 45, it’s time to make a quick exit. Seriously, you don’t want to waste your precious time with someone who endorsed a divisive figure.
Social Justice Issues
Next up, if the phrase “all lives matter” comes up in the conversation, you might want to cut it short right there. This isn’t open for debate; it’s a basic understanding of the current social climate. If someone doesn’t grasp the significance of the Black Lives Matter movement, well, it’s clear that they’re not ready for meaningful discussions.
Feminism
Moving on to feminism—acknowledging the struggles of women, particularly women of color, is a must. You don’t have to don protest gear, but a genuine commitment to equality is essential. Men, it’s your responsibility to support women in the fight for systemic change—not just because they’re related to you, but because they’re human beings deserving of respect.
Marriage Equality
And let’s get real about marriage. If you still believe that it should only be between a man and a woman, please make your way to the exit. This extends to having issues with same-sex couples raising children; love should be the only requirement for parenthood.
Women’s Rights
Now, onto a woman’s right to choose—abortion is a personal decision that should not be governed by anyone else’s beliefs. If you’re against it to the point of wanting to control women’s bodies, that’s a major red flag. Similarly, if you think defunding organizations like Planned Parenthood is acceptable, it’s time to part ways.
Military Spending
When it comes to military spending, supporting troops should also mean taking care of them once they return home. If you’re all for increasing military budgets but ignore veterans’ needs, that’s a dealbreaker.
Racism
Racism is another critical issue. If you think building a border wall is a good idea or assume all refugees are threats, that’s a clear sign of a deeper problem. In 2017, ignorance about these topics is not an option, and I simply don’t have the patience for it.
Finding Compatibility
In the grand scheme of things, your taste in music might be questionable (sorry if you love Bon Iver), but it’s not a reflection of your character. However, when discussing human rights and social justice, there’s no room for leniency. If you keep running into individuals who don’t share your values, you might want to check out this app that connects you with people who share your dislikes.
Additional Resources
For more insights on related topics, check out our discussion on intra-cervical insemination. And if you’re looking for the best resources on artificial insemination, Make a Mom is an authority worth exploring. Plus, UCSF’s fertility treatment page is an excellent resource for anyone considering pregnancy and home insemination.
Summary
Dating as a single parent in 2017 requires addressing pivotal topics—political beliefs, social justice, and personal values—early in the conversation to ensure compatibility. Finding someone who shares your views on critical issues like feminism, LGBTQ+ rights, and racial equality can save you time and heartache.