The One-Bathroom Family: The Struggles Are Real

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When our family of four transitioned from a cramped one-bedroom apartment to our current three-bedroom duplex, we felt incredibly lucky. We gained roughly three times the living space we previously had, along with a yard, a patio, brand new appliances, and ample storage. At that time, the fact that our new home had only one bathroom barely crossed my mind—after all, we had a lot more space to enjoy. Our youngest was still in diapers, so we were really only worrying about three people needing to use the bathroom.

Fast forward three years: we’ve comfortably settled in, our youngest is out of diapers, and our tween has taken up the habit of lengthy showers. Suddenly, having just one bathroom has become quite a challenge—a rather significant one, to be honest.

Have you ever noticed that it seems everyone in the household needs to use the bathroom at the same time? Perhaps it was something you all ate, or maybe it’s just that time of day when everyone relaxes enough to…let it all out, so to speak. If you have more than one bathroom, you might find it amusing. But if you’re like us, with only one bathroom, and everyone just had burritos for lunch—well, humor is the last thing on your mind.

And don’t even get me started on the chaos of a clogged toilet, whether it’s due to someone’s digestive misadventure or a rogue rubber duck that somehow found its way into the plumbing.

It’s not just about urgent bathroom needs or toilets that refuse to cooperate. Getting everyone ready for the day is a logistical nightmare, especially when we’re all trying to leave the house at the same time. Bedtime can be a disaster as well, with kids bumping into each other, water spills, and toothpaste flying everywhere. At those moments, I dream of having the luxury of multiple bathrooms to keep them separated.

Then there’s the matter of privacy. I know I shouldn’t expect much while raising young kids, but sometimes I just want a moment of peace in the bathroom—maybe to wash up, pluck my eyebrows, or try out that new concealer I purchased online. Yet, I’m rarely allowed more than a few minutes of solitude before someone bursts in, urgently claiming they can’t hold it any longer (though it often turns out they just want company because they can’t bear to be out of my sight for even five minutes).

If I could have another bathroom, I would love a “mom’s only” sanctuary. A place to retreat for a few moments of self-care or to escape when the kids are at each other’s throats. A room where I can lock the door and enjoy a pint of ice cream without worrying about interruptions.

However, I recognize that adding another bathroom wouldn’t solve all my problems. I’m also aware that our home is quite generous compared to many around the globe, where even one functioning bathroom is a luxury. I remember my grandmother recounting tales of growing up in New York City tenements where an entire building had to share a single bathroom!

Since we rent, upgrading our bathroom situation would mean moving, which isn’t in the cards right now. So, while I often vent about the one-bathroom dilemma (and honestly, complaining is perfectly valid), it’s our reality for the time being.

On the bright side, living modestly in this way has taught our family cooperation, patience, and the value of sharing. My kids are learning that extra bathrooms aren’t essentials, and they’re developing gratitude for what we do have. Plus, I’d say we’ve all just about built some pretty strong leg muscles from the constant bathroom juggling—not something to overlook!

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Summary:

Living in a one-bathroom home can be quite a challenge for a family of four, especially as kids grow and routines change. While it may seem frustrating, this situation teaches invaluable lessons in cooperation and gratitude. Ultimately, it’s a reminder that our living conditions, though limited, still provide us with opportunities for growth and bonding.