Dear Daughter,
As I reflect on the world into which I’ve brought you, I recognize that it is a complicated and often unfair place. I want to express my deepest regrets for the misogyny you will undoubtedly face as you grow up. Society still struggles to recognize women as equals, and many people will judge you simply because of your gender.
I apologize for the fact that your worth may be assessed based on your appearance. Regardless of your intellect, kindness, or bravery, some may reduce you to your clothing choices. You might find yourself subjected to shame and hurtful labels like “slut” or “whore”, all under the guise of propriety. Remember, their views do not define you; be confident in your own skin and embrace what makes you feel remarkable.
I’m also sorry that you may have to constantly prove your intelligence because of outdated beliefs about women. Your insightful counterarguments may be dismissed with comments like “too sensitive” or “too emotional.” Don’t let such ignorance deter you; continue to advocate for yourself and others.
It pains me to acknowledge that your brother may have certain advantages simply because he is male. If you both enter the workforce together, he might earn more for the same role solely due to his gender. I apologize for the inequities you may face in terms of recognition and opportunities, even when your qualifications are equal to his.
I hope for a future where these disparities diminish, but I want you to be prepared to stand tall and assert your rightful place in the world. You are strong and brave, and never forget that.
I regret that some may perceive your ability to express emotions as a weakness. Additionally, the natural cycle of menstruation might lead others to judge your behavior or decisions unfairly. Never allow anyone to shame you for your body or its functions.
If you choose to have children, you may encounter judgment for your work-life choices. Some might argue that working outside the home harms your family, while others may criticize you for staying home. Ultimately, you must decide what ignites your passion, whether it involves children, a career, or a blend of both. Choose the path that feels right for you.
I apologize for the societal norms that may not align with the respect you deserve, but I want to assure you that there is hope. Many are working tirelessly to create a brighter future for you and all women. We are actively contacting our leaders, participating in protests, and raising our voices on social media to drive change. Together, we are pushing for reproductive rights, equal pay, and an end to victim-blaming.
The journey for women is challenging and often fraught with obstacles and ignorance. I regret that this is the reality you’re faced with, but don’t lose hope. We are fighting for you, because being a woman is not a burden; it’s a magnificent and empowering experience.
Stand tall and embrace your strength.
With all my love,
Mom