To My Dear Friend Who Is Grieving After a Miscarriage

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Oh, my precious friend. I find myself in a bustling café, juggling spilled toys and muttering at the establishment for its lack of kid-friendly amenities when your message comes through.

You’ve endured another loss—your second miscarriage in just a few short months. In an instant, the noise around me fades away. A wave of emotions hits me, feelings I became familiar with years ago, and my heart breaks for you.

I won’t offer clichés like “I’m so sorry” or insist that everything happens for a reason. I won’t share stories of others who have faced similar heartache and eventually found joy. I also won’t ask how far along you were, because no number can quantify your pain or make it seem any less significant.

I promise not to mention that you have other children, as if that should somehow lessen your grief. But then again, I can’t guarantee I won’t slip up—because I’m human, and my words may falter in moments of discomfort, even if they come from a good place. I know you won’t blame me for any misguided attempts to help, just as I didn’t blame friends who stumbled through their words when I faced my own loss.

What I truly want to say, if I can clear my mind and gather the right words, is this: I love you. This situation is profoundly unfair, and I love you. Whatever emotions you’re feeling are completely valid and deserve to be acknowledged. If you find the weight of these feelings too heavy to bear alone, know that support is available, and there’s no shame in seeking it. I’m here for you, and I’ll accompany you if you need.

Whether you navigate this painful journey with the help of loved ones or seek additional support, my love for you will only deepen as you confront this struggle. The toll that miscarriages take on a woman’s heart, whether she’s hoping for her first child or her fifth, is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

I see your hurt, but I also see the love surrounding you—love from me and many others. Embrace that love, and let’s heal together. Even years later, old wounds can resurface and require fresh care. So let’s walk this path together, dear friend. Remember, you are deeply loved.

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In summary, I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey. Grief is complicated, and it’s essential to validate your feelings while also seeking support when needed. Together, we can work toward healing, no matter how long it takes.