I wouldn’t call myself a total mess, but I’m far from obsessive about cleanliness. I’d say I’m pretty “chill” regarding my living space. I enjoy having a tidy home, but perfection is rarely achievable, and I’m okay with that. With my husband and I both working from home and homeschooling our three kids, our house sees a lot of action, and it definitely reflects that.
However, when I have guests I don’t know well, I transform into an organizational whirlwind. I can turn our cluttered home into a showcase in no time flat. Of course, this involves stuffing papers and laundry into bedrooms, alongside a bit of frantic motivation directed at my family, but I can pull it off.
If it’s your first visit to our place (assuming you don’t pop by unannounced), you’ll be welcomed into a living area that looks like it belongs in a design magazine, complete with fresh coffee and attractive arrangements. I can create a picture-perfect setting when I really put my mind to it.
That said, I’d rather not maintain that level of tidiness all the time. While I’d love to keep everything spotless, our lifestyle makes that unrealistic. Plus, the stress it would cause isn’t worth it.
When close friends come over, we tidy up a bit but don’t stress about perfection. You might spot a laundry basket in the dining room, a half-finished game of Monopoly on the coffee table, art projects in progress, or stacks of paper waiting to be sorted. The floor under the dining table likely needs a sweep, and there may be a few dishes piled in the sink, just waiting for their turn in the dishwasher. And of course, there will be shoes that have wandered to the wrong place.
If you find our home in this state, please take it as a compliment. Seriously.
If I didn’t know and trust you, I’d go to great lengths to hide our real life. I’d put on a polished act as a sign of respect and courtesy, not inviting you into our genuine chaos. But with good friends, I’m comfortable showing our everyday life. Not putting in a huge effort to tidy means I trust you not to judge us. It acknowledges that we don’t need to impress each other all the time. It’s about being genuine and relaxed, like family.
Believe it or not, that laundry basket signifies love. My mess indicates I care. Those paper stacks mean you belong here.
So when you step into our home and notice it’s a bit chaotic, know that’s just how we live—definitely not like an episode of Hoarders, but far from HGTV standards. We cherish you so much that we want you to be part of our reality.
So please, take our mess as the compliment it is. Letting you see it is a testament to our friendship, a sign that you’re welcome in our home and our lives anytime.
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In summary, if you see my home in a less-than-perfect state, it’s a sign that you’re part of my inner circle. I trust you enough to let you see our everyday life and imperfections.