A few years back, my life changed thanks to Amazon. It wasn’t about the endless supply of nut butters or the convenience of shopping for gifts while binge-watching reality TV at 2 a.m. No, it was the insightful book recommendations that appeared based on my browsing habits. Each suggested title shared a common theme: the art of simplifying life.
It’s perplexing that while my spouse, friends, and even my doctor couldn’t help me navigate my mental struggles, an algorithm could. Titles with serene messages and peaceful imagery filled my screen, all echoing the same advice: to gain more, we must do less. The popularity and rave reviews indicated I wasn’t the only one yearning for a way to declutter my calendar and reclaim my time. Even the familiar subtitles resonated deeply — “No More Proving Yourself,” “Embracing a Simpler, More Meaningful Existence,” and “Finding Joy in the Everyday Moments.”
Is It Really Okay to Do Less?
What about my fellow high-achieving Gen X parents? We’ve spent years diligently preparing our children for elite schools while embracing attachment parenting, all while trying to be the perfect presence in every facet of our lives — our families, communities, and careers.
Have we collectively reached a breaking point, realizing that true happiness and fulfillment don’t come from a packed schedule but from savoring the simple, ordinary moments with our loved ones? After immersing myself in those “do less, be more” books, I felt more at peace than ever before. I wanted to share my newfound revelation with every overwhelmed mom I encountered, especially those who felt perpetually inadequate.
These were the moms who constantly volunteered, worked overtime without recognition, and set impossibly high standards for themselves and their families. They were the ones whose self-worth fluctuated daily, always comparing themselves to others. They collapsed into bed each night, drained and apprehensive about facing another day, rather than feeling satisfied with their achievements and eager for tomorrow.
Reflecting on Our Approach
When you dread tomorrow, it’s time to reflect on how you approached today. There’s a saying: “What you focus on, you become.” Too often, we fixate on the wrong things, leading to stress and anxiety. Moms, shift your focus from unattainable ideals—like perfect bodies, pristine children, gourmet meals, and overwhelming schedules—to what truly matters: your partner and your children. Release yourself from commitments that don’t nourish your spirit.
Redirect your gaze to the enduring aspects of your life, not to the envy-inducing lives of others. Simplify your schedule to prioritize genuine experiences rather than stress and tension. You’ll be amazed at how exciting life becomes when you look forward to tomorrow instead of dreading it.
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Conclusion
In summary, to truly embrace life, we need to simplify our commitments and focus on what truly matters. By doing less, we can enjoy more meaningful experiences with our loved ones and find greater joy in everyday moments.