“Hey, what will you be signing up for today?” A fellow mom at preschool waved a clipboard and pen as I dropped off my daughter’s backpack. I’ve mastered the art of slipping in and out of the school without making eye contact to dodge this exact scenario. But today, I knew I had to face it. Taking a deep breath, I grinned and said, “I’ll be signing up for a cozy evening with popcorn and a movie, Lucy.” I seized the moment of her bewilderment to make my escape down the hallway.
Once upon a time, I eagerly volunteered for everything! But then parenting morphed into a chaotic whirlwind of planning and organizing, and I found myself drowning in a sea of school events.
Every week, I receive emails about upcoming preschool activities. Carnivals! Tea parties! Story time with actual owls! Perhaps my expectations are just too low. Growing up, we didn’t have much. We made mud pies in old tins and showed our foreign exchange student how to play poker with candy and coins. Sometimes, we went to matinee movies for just $2, and we spent countless hours outside.
Now, each time I drop my daughter off at preschool, there’s always a signup sheet circulating for the latest “event” that our kids will likely forget. It’s filled with names of parents who are juggling multiple responsibilities, striving to do their best.
I used to think my reluctance to participate stemmed from laziness. Honestly, the idea of raffle day and making a second trip to the school after a long day feels like a personal nightmare. By the end of the day, all I want is to curl up on the couch and munch on snacks.
Yet, other parents seem to thrive in this environment. They line up, armed with baked goods and checkbooks, ready to create magical moments for their children. Meanwhile, I find myself in the backyard, sipping wine while my daughter plays in the dirt, questioning if I’m failing her by allowing her to entertain herself instead of crafting some elaborate experience.
When did parenting become an endless source of guilt aimed at making every moment extraordinary? My own childhood felt simpler. I was lucky to have a loving family. We had dinner together and spent time at the park. I fondly remember splashing around in puddles and making green milk for St. Patrick’s Day. I recall sliding down the stairs on cardboard boxes, running through sprinklers, and decorating Christmas cookies with every color frosting imaginable.
But something shifted along the way. When my daughter started preschool, I felt like a personal assistant. I was scouring for raffle items, coordinating class playdates, and volunteering for events like “BBQ Bonanza” and “Donut Delight Day.” I even hand-sewed costumes and created Pinterest-worthy birthday parties, convinced that these efforts defined me as a good mother and showed my daughter my love.
Then it hit me—our schedule had spiraled out of control. She was wandering through the aquarium, and I was frantically asking, “Are you having fun?” while she looked visibly annoyed. I returned home, collapsed on the couch, and declared, “Enough is enough.” My daughter doesn’t need a jam-packed schedule to have a happy childhood, and I shouldn’t spend every waking moment worrying about crafting special experiences.
She will remember the love, I reassured myself as I strolled past a signup sheet the next day. I’ve decided to embrace a more relaxed approach to parenting. Half-hearted participation can still mean a full-hearted presence. After countless trips to the children’s museum, I realized the joy had faded. “Having fun” had become a routine task, and my daughter’s happiness felt like just another chore to check off.
Now, we do less. Sometimes she’s bored. She might spend an entire day outside with just a bucket and a spoon while I enjoy a book in the yard. Admittedly, I still feel guilty on days when we don’t have a packed schedule. But when I catch a glimpse of her helping me fold laundry or simply playing, I know she’ll remember the love.
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