I recently received a diagnosis of generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. While it was not unexpected, as I’ve dealt with these symptoms throughout my life, becoming a parent has ignited a stronger desire within me to learn effective coping strategies, seek help, and manage my mental health rather than simply ignoring it.
Naturally, I’ve noticed some signs of anxiety in one of my children. When I began recognizing these symptoms a couple of years ago, it broke my heart. The last thing I wanted was for my child to face a struggle I have battled for so long. However, during a recent discussion with my pediatrician, I shared my concerns and my own diagnosis. His reassuring perspective surprised me as he spoke about the strengths my child might develop, the achievements awaiting him, and reassured me that everything would turn out okay. I felt an immense sense of relief wash over me.
As parents, we strive to shield our children from the heartaches we’ve experienced, yet I’ve realized I am stronger than ever today. I’ve learned to confront the anxiety that once held me back for years, and I tackle that challenge every day, little by little. What I once perceived as a weakness in my child now seems like a potential source of incredible strength for him.
No one was there to help me through my mental health struggles as a child, but I am here for my son. What better support for a child facing anxiety than having someone who truly understands right beside them?
Here’s what I would tell my child, and any other kids grappling with anxiety:
It’s okay. Yes, it can be tough. Some days will be overwhelming, and yes, your anxiety may disrupt things at times. But remember, you are becoming stronger by confronting it every day.
Don’t let anyone convince you that you’re weak. You are not. While some things come easily to others, it may be a challenge for you, and that’s perfectly fine. You are a fighter, and you can overcome this battle.
It’s completely normal to feel afraid. Embrace those feelings of fear and anxiety, but also remind yourself that it’s okay to fight against them. You can experience fear and still rise above it. Some days will feel impossible, and on those days, they may be. However, you will have many days where you conquer those feelings. Hold onto those victories—they are what make you stronger.
It’s alright if you can’t do what others can. You possess unique talents and abilities. We are all different. Perhaps crowds make you anxious, or speaking in front of even a small group terrifies you. That’s okay. Identify your strengths and focus on them without comparing yourself to others.
Recognize that your brain works differently, and love yourself for it. This can be challenging. You may wish your mind functioned like everyone else’s, and sometimes, you may despise your perspective. Yet, the more you embrace your unique way of thinking, the more you’ll learn to identify when your thoughts stray and how to regain control. Just love yourself—and your quirky brain—exactly as you are.
Share your feelings with someone you trust. I promise there are people in your life who will accept you just as you are. Don’t pretend to be fine. Be open about your struggles; it will help you find your support system. Whether it’s a parent, a teacher, or a friend, seek out those who understand and care for you, and trust them enough to share your experiences.
While it may seem daunting, remind yourself that taking life one day at a time makes it manageable. Concentrate on today—don’t worry about tomorrow or what might happen in the future. Focus on doing your best in the present.
Forgive yourself. I’ll allow you to cry, scream, and feel overwhelmed, as long as you also work on pulling yourself together afterward and forgiving yourself. Promise me you’ll do that. Forgive yourself after setbacks. Forgive yourself for feeling overwhelmed. Forgive yourself for not fitting into a mold. You can’t help feeling this way, but you can fight against it. Together, we can emerge victorious.
This article was originally published on June 12, 2017.
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Summary:
This article encourages children struggling with anxiety to recognize their strength and resilience. It emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, finding support, and facing fears. It reassures kids that they can be both afraid and courageous, and that their unique perspectives can be a source of strength.