Why Parenting Was More Enjoyable in the ’80s

The late 20th century marked a unique era. Dads sipped cocktails, moms puffed on cigarettes, and Tang and SPAM were kitchen staples. The stay-at-home moms of today mirrored the housewives of yesteryear, and they embraced their roles. Children were free spirits, and parents had the final say. I often find myself reminiscing about those days, having grown up in that simpler time.

As I observe today’s parents asking their kids—let’s say, little Max and Lily—to tone it down during morning tumbling classes, I can’t help but cringe. I strive to keep my opinions to myself, but when kids are running wild—throwing toys or screeching while their parents chat about the weather—my patience wears thin.

Sure, I might slip in a passive-aggressive comment, like, “Wouldn’t it be great if parents could manage their children?” Maybe I’m crossing a line, but I believe it’s essential to address the sense of entitlement that’s become commonplace among kids today. This isn’t meant to be a rant or lecture. Rather, I long for the uncomplicated parenting style of the ’70s and ’80s. I can almost hear our parents’ voices saying, “You’re doing this all wrong.” They may not be entirely right, but they aren’t completely off base either.

Playtime Simplicity

Remember when playtime was simple? Little Max would knock on the door and ask if Lily could join him outside. No need for organized playdates or frantic scheduling through smartphones. Mom would simply call for them, and off they’d go to play with sticks and stones. Nature ignited their imaginations—something I worry my kids are missing out on in a world filled with over-stimulation.

When lunchtime rolled around, a simple shout would summon them back home. They’d eat whatever Mom made without question. Today, kids often need parents to plan every aspect of their playtime, leaving them unsure of how to entertain themselves.

Toys of the Past

Toys back then were, well, toys. Slinkys and Shrinky Dinks were favorites, while today’s children are surrounded by a barrage of electronic gadgets. Back then, our idea of high-tech was a game of Battleship or Simon. We could spend hours just spinning around until we felt dizzy. Today, children are inundated with iPads, Xboxes, and more, leading to fleeting moments of joy as they chase after the latest gadgets.

Saturday Morning Cartoons

Oh, the delight of Saturday mornings! We indulged in sugary cereals—allowed only on that sacred day—and enjoyed our favorite cartoons. Today, kids have access to an endless stream of shows at any hour. When my daughter was sick recently, I had a multitude of options to choose from at 2 a.m. on a Tuesday. Growing up, we cherished our Saturday cartoon marathons, influenced by the likes of Aaron Spelling and Norman Lear.

Following Parental Lead

We didn’t have choices; if our parents decided on a beach trip, we all piled into the car without question. We’d return home sunburned but convinced we had a blast because our parents said so. Their catchphrases were simple and clear. The days of “I’ll give you something to cry about” have been replaced by modern negotiations of treat restrictions or early bedtimes.

Food and Family Pets

Food was straightforward back then. We ate SPAM and Fluffernutters without a second thought about organic ingredients or allergens. Now, children navigate a minefield of dietary restrictions. Dinner was a sit-down affair, and we were expected to finish our meals—no exceptions.

As for pets, dogs were just dogs—plain and simple, without fancy names or pampered lifestyles. They didn’t wear costumes or have social media profiles; they were companions that understood their place in the family hierarchy.

I admit, I’ve fallen into some of these modern parenting traps myself. I’m not here to judge but rather to reflect on how we can find a balance between the carefree parenting of the past and the overly involved style of today. Parenting is tough, and we’re all just trying to do our best, no matter the decade. For a deeper look at navigating this journey, check out this excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination, or learn more about our options here.

In conclusion, while I might be nostalgic for the past, I recognize that every generation has its challenges. Let’s find a way to blend the best of both worlds.