In our household, the distribution of responsibilities shifts frequently, often changing weekly based on our work commitments. Generally, my partner handles the morning routine, getting the kids dressed and out the door, while I take over during school pickup and dinner prep. The final moments of our evening routine—bathing, cleaning up the kitchen, brushing teeth, and getting into pajamas—are usually divided based on who has the energy. However, there’s one task that science suggests my husband should consistently take on: reading bedtime stories.
Research from Harvard University has found that children who are read to by their fathers exhibit stronger language skills compared to those who are only read to by their mothers. So, if dads are present and able, they should embrace the nightly storytelling ritual.
While I appreciate that kids can gain a significant advantage from storytime with Dad, I can’t help but feel a little annoyed that this specific duty is the one highlighted—especially since it’s one of the more enjoyable parenting activities. Where’s the study that shows kids benefit when Dad is the one trimming their tiny nails? Or the research indicating that kids fare better when Dad is stuck next to the potty for an hour with a child who ends up having an accident? I jest, but there is truth in the notion that children benefit from active father involvement in all aspects of parenting, from diaper changes to attending school events. Thankfully, more dads are stepping up these days, even if moms still handle the majority of household tasks.
What Makes Reading with Dad Special?
So, what makes reading with Dad so special? Is it the deep voice? The playful beard? Not quite. According to the Harvard research, the approach fathers take when reading differs significantly from that of mothers. Dr. Lisa Hart, the study’s lead author, explains in a recent interview, “When we observed interactions during reading time, we found that fathers often used more abstract and complex language. They tended to connect the story to the child’s own experiences, saying things like, ‘Remember when we used a ladder to fix the roof?’—something mothers typically don’t do. Mothers usually focus more on the details, asking children to label objects or identify colors.”
Dr. Hart emphasizes that these distinct interactions can provide invaluable benefits—such as when dads engage in roughhousing, which helps kids develop coordination and self-regulation. In our family, this holds true, as Dad often plays the role of the energetic roughhouser, while I’m more of the relaxed cuddler.
It’s worth noting that while Dads are becoming increasingly involved, mothers still dedicate twice the amount of time to childcare and household chores. Dads, on the other hand, often spend more hours working outside the home.
This dynamic is evolving, and I believe both parents are gaining from more flexible gender roles, which allows them to lead lives that feel true to themselves. Reading a bedtime story is a cherished activity that ranks high on the list of fulfilling parenting moments. It’s wonderful that research backs up what many families intuitively understand: kids thrive with engaged and nurturing fathers.
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In summary, children gain significantly from reading with their fathers, as the style and interaction differ from that of mothers, enhancing language development and engagement. It’s beneficial for families to recognize these advantages and encourage involved parenting from both parents.