Updated: Aug. 3, 2016
Originally Published: Oct. 30, 2005
As my children navigate their formative years, they have two distinct models of work ethic to observe—one admirable and one less so. My partner, Mark, is the epitome of dedication, often to the point of overworking himself. He has amassed a staggering amount of sick leave and juggles multiple major projects simultaneously, showcasing an impressive ability to switch between tasks with laser focus and accomplish a great deal over time.
In contrast, my approach to work has been more measured. I took a step back from my career when our first child arrived, alleviating some of the pressure to be the primary breadwinner. My work has primarily revolved around finding a role that pays adequately while allowing me to enjoy family, friends, and personal interests. I’ve never quite matched Mark’s discipline in initiating and completing tasks. This difference in perspective may stem from divergent work orientations, as highlighted by research from professors at the University of Michigan and Google.
Types of Work Orientation
Penny Wrenn reports that these researchers identified three types of work orientation:
- A “job” orientation, which views work merely as a means to pay the bills.
- A “career” orientation, where individuals find fulfillment through measurable advancements in their professional lives.
- A “calling” orientation, characterized by a passion for work that persists regardless of financial rewards—think artists, clergy, or dedicated public servants.
People often shift between these orientations throughout their lives, and they can also coexist. The work habits and attitudes that my partner and I embody will undoubtedly influence our children’s perspectives on work, for better or worse. As Baker notes, if parents express disdain for their jobs, children may perceive work as merely a burdensome obligation.
I want my kids to emerge with a well-rounded perspective on work, recognizing the value in both passion-driven endeavors and paying jobs. I fear they might view Mark’s high-achieving work ethic as the only valid model while underestimating the contributions of a primary caregiver. The invisible labor—like preparing meals or caring for relatives—often goes unnoticed, while career milestones are celebrated.
Fortunately, the researchers point out that a blend of orientations can be beneficial. They mention a young woman who, inspired by her ambitious father, thrives in her career while also dedicating time to pro-bono work, reflecting her mother’s community-oriented values.
As a parent, my greatest hope is to empower my children to navigate their professional lives flexibly. The job market in the coming years will likely reward versatility and broad skillsets. There will be moments when a paycheck takes precedence, and others when they can pursue their passions. Moreover, they should feel free to step back for family when necessary—after all, work is just one aspect of life.
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In summary, the work habits and attitudes of parents play a pivotal role in shaping their children’s perspectives on work. By modeling a balanced approach, parents can encourage their kids to pursue fulfilling careers while also recognizing the importance of family and personal passions.