When you’re expecting, everyone seems eager to share their advice: what foods to eat, how to sleep, and even how to guess the baby’s gender. But once your little one arrives, the unsolicited tips keep coming, and I found that many weren’t particularly useful. Here’s what I truly wish someone had shared with me:
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While breast milk is often touted as the best option, don’t feel guilty about using formula if necessary. I had dreams of being the quintessential earth mama, nursing my baby with ease, but reality was quite different. The early days with Mia were tough, filled with tears and frustration. Despite all the guidance on breastfeeding techniques and pumping, nobody mentioned that it was perfectly fine to feed her formula. She still bonded with me and thrived, which is what truly matters.
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Take your time before heading home from the hospital. You have nurses at your beck and call, room service, and fresh linens—all without lifting a finger! Enjoy this special time; life at home will be a whole new adventure.
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Remember, it’s a baby, not an extraterrestrial. Skip the fancy baby gear that promises to make your life easier. After searching for the perfect changing table, I discovered that the kitchen counter was my go-to spot for diaper changes. It’s the right height, easily accessible, and has storage for diapers right below!
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Accept every offer for babysitting. Everyone adores a newborn and will gladly hold your baby while you take a much-needed shower, prepare a meal, or grab a nap. Newborns are delightful to hold; toddlers, not so much. So, take advantage of the help while it lasts.
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For those with baby boys, point the penis down to avoid diaper leaks. Seriously, why is this not common knowledge?
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Avoid splurging on infant clothes. While it’s tempting to buy adorable outfits, you’ll likely receive plenty from friends and family. Plus, most newborns live in just a few favorite pieces that you can wash and reuse. And leave the tags on until you’re absolutely sure you need an item. I learned the hard way when Mia never wore half of what I had prepped.
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Steer clear of clothing with excessive snaps and buttons. They may look cute, but they’ll become a source of stress during late-night changes. Opt for elasticized outfits that are easy to put on and take off.
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Keep a diaper emergency kit in your car. I’ll never forget arriving at our first pediatrician visit without any supplies. It takes some getting used to, but newborn blowouts are a reality, and being prepared is essential.
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Don’t hesitate to ask for help. Joining the “parenting community” means you’re never alone. Don’t be shy about borrowing wipes from another parent in a pinch or sharing snacks with a fussy child in the park. We’re all in this together.
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Lastly, cherish these moments. Not just because they fly by (which they do), but because the early months are often the easiest. If you have another child, you’ll find yourself reminiscing about how manageable a single newborn was—believe me!
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In summary, being a new parent comes with challenges, but knowing what to expect can ease the transition. Embrace the help, simplify your approach, and remember that you’re not alone on this journey.