Updated: August 14, 2015
Originally Published: November 7, 2010
It’s official: aside from being a walking snack dispenser, my pre-teen kids think I’m about as cool as a pair of old shoes. I knew this day would come; I had heard the cautionary tales from other parents, but I secretly hoped I might escape unscathed. Yet, nothing truly prepares you for the reality of your children being embarrassed by you.
I remember the days when my kids clung to my side, believing that only mom could calm their worries. Now, a quick text from a friend suffices just fine.
Whenever I step foot into their school—a total nightmare for them—I’m given a strict set of rules:
- Don’t talk to anyone.
- Avoid eye contact at all costs.
- Absolutely do not speak to my teacher.
- No hugs or kisses, please.
- Do not introduce yourself to the class.
- Don’t bring my lunch late.
- Please refrain from chatting with my friends.
- No conversations with other parents.
Oh, how the tables have turned. It wasn’t long ago when my presence was requested for everything. My kids would ask me to volunteer daily, bring special treats for their classmates, lead math groups, and chaperone every field trip. I was their hero, the cool mom who brought kittens to show-and-tell and shared hugs as we walked into school together.
Now, it seems I’m the mom who waves enthusiastically and shouts “I love you!” from the car window. I’m the one blasting Taylor Swift’s “Shake It Off” as I pick them up, the one who shows up at school just to catch a glimpse of them. I’m that mom in scruffy yoga pants and a messy ponytail.
The signs of my kids’ growing embarrassment became painfully clear with every eye roll and muttered comment. The worst was when my son pretended not to know me, leaving his teacher to question my identity.
I’ve also had my fair share of awkward conversations. At a school orientation, I casually mentioned my arm hair waxing advice, only to watch my daughter subtly inch away from me. “Mom, can we please not talk about your arm hair at school?” Oops. Maybe their discomfort is justified, but I still believe they should welcome me with open arms, no matter their age. Right? Wrong. What a letdown.
Yet, I remain hopeful that this phase will pass and they’ll come back around to their senses one day.
In a surprising twist, I experienced a little breakthrough today. My son gave me a sweet kiss on the cheek as he said goodbye in front of the school! I didn’t even have to ask! Plus, my daughter hugged me as she hopped out of the car. Maybe there’s hope for this mom with a bit too much arm hair after all.
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In summary, navigating the world of tweens can be a rollercoaster of emotions for parents, especially when your kids start seeing you as uncool. Despite the awkward moments and the embarrassment, there are still glimmers of affection that remind us that the bond remains strong.