I often found myself pondering whether I would ever feel that my family was truly complete. Would the yearning for a peaceful newborn ever fade? Would I stop envying new mothers who could relish the sweet scent of their babies instead of the musky odor of my older kids after a day outside? Would there be a moment when I could finally let go of those tiny onesies, outgrown Halloween costumes, and beloved board books that I held onto just in case? Would that longing ever dissipate?
I have friends like Jenna, who knew instantly after the birth of their first child that their family was finished. Others, like Rachel, made the decision to tie their tubes after baby number one, two, or even three, firmly closing the door on any future pregnancies. Then there are those who have never wanted to be parents at all, like my friend Claire.
But I have never experienced that kind of certainty. For years, I assumed that three children would be my magic number. It felt just right—nice and rounded, with at least one child not driving me crazy at any given time. Yet, time and again, I would be struck by a sudden wave of baby fever, and suddenly the idea of expanding to a family of six would seem more delightful than daunting. Each late period would turn into an emotional roller coaster, filled with daydreams of what could be.
That was until last week when a bizarre moment of clarity hit me. In a strange twist of fate involving my missing IUD, I envisioned life with four children. I saw the infant car seat, the formula, the diapers, the sleepless nights, and all those beautiful firsts—smiles, steps, and birthdays. But instead of picturing sibling bonding, backyard games, or festive family dinners, I was overwhelmed by a vision of financial strain, stress, and chaos.
And just like that, the moment passed. The thought of adding another baby brought me not the familiar pangs of longing but an overwhelming sense of relief. It was then I realized: my family is complete with three.
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In summary, finding your perfect family size can be a journey filled with uncertainty and emotion. While some may have clarity from the start, others, like me, may find resolution after a moment of self-reflection. The important thing is to embrace the decision that feels right for you.